Not sure if there's a problem, looking for some input - Update
I wanted to post this to ask women more experienced than I, if they think my son might have a problem and I apologize for lengthy post. I am a first time mom, my DS is 20 months old and I wasn't around kids much growing up...so to distinguish sometimes between what's considered average/normal or not is hard for me at times.
My DS only says a few words at this point, mama/dada/hi and not often. He does not point, wave hi/bye. They way he indicates he wants food is to bring it to me. When we read books he'll take my hand and point to things. I notice he doesn't interact much with kids when he is around them, although he hasn't been around much kids lately. He will not respond to his name, but will come running if I say bottle or cookie (sometimes I wondered if this was because my MIL calles him one nickname, sometimes I call him a nickname...maybe we all just call him too many different names!) Sometimes he'll stare at ceiling fan, but not for long periods of time.
The positive factors I see are that he likes me to hold him, will throw his arms up for me to pick him up often. If I ask for a kiss, he plops one on the cheek. He runs, crawls all over the couch, laughs, likes to be tickled. Goes nuts for Little Einsteins and Mickey mouse, maybe a little too much and I am trying to cut back on his tv. He loves to eat, anything I give him. He plays with his toys, and seems to be a very pleasant child.
I guess I am wondering if I am starting to overthink or overlook into everything he does because he isn't talking yet?? I've had some people tell me he seems like a normal child, according to my description. But I have looked at posts on this site and see similarities with the characteristics that other parents with ASD LOs have. I do have early intervention coming to evaluate him during the first week of September. I do appreciate any advice on what else to look for, or even if you think I am a paranoid momma. Sorry for such a long post! Thanks, Lina
Update 9/5/12: I wanted to thank you ladies for all your suggestions, kind words, and support. Today my son was evaluated by a speech therapist and OT, they found him to have delays in communication, cognitive, and social emotional. They gave me a bunch of homework on things to work with him on, and at some point in a week or two a case worker will be meeting me to go over the amount of sessions he needs and things like that. The two evaluators already made their second appt. with Aiden for Sept 24th. I think I will try starting a journal to keep track of any progress he makes and issues that arise. They also said I should look into audiology testing and also an eval. by a developmental pediatrician, so I will be doing that asap.
They also mentioned to me that I should try thinking about day care a few times a week to get him around kids more. My concern is that since he doesn't really pay attention to kids, and sort of just runs around and does his own things...will a daycare tolerate that? The evaluators mentioned it would help give him structure and interact with kids, but my concern was in his current state would they even want him there or are there different type of centers for kids with delays to go.