I have a Question or should I say my husband does? update in red on pg 34
The below describes what my best friend does with her Autistic son. The question is should we report it?
I have witnessed our friend hitting her son who suffers from Asperger's with a plastic spatula whenever he 'lashes' out (i.e. Hitting his sister, hitting her, etc) also when he has a major meltdown (crying/screaming) she will shove him on to the couch (which doubles as his bed) and hold a pillow over his head until he stops his it. She also refuses to let him go outside or anywhere other than school, her husband (whom she has separated from) has got her so scared that DCF will get called if he goes outside and starts screaming. She does not provide any toys for him to play with, he ends up playing with the cat's toy or making paper spinners (tearing up paper and wrapping string around it). She allows him to take several baths a day, he uses the bath to have BM's, she allows him to do this, he was fully potty trained up until last school year (around Jan or Feb) something has happened to him at the school that has scared him of the toilet, and She blames his father for this, even though his father would not put up with him pottying in his pants, he (the father) would not yell at him but simply make him use the bathroom. This boy is almost 12 years old and is non-verbal, he is enrolled in public school and from what I can tell in a basic special ed class. He receives SSI and she uses the money on her needs (rent, phone, etc) she does not provide him with anything that might help him progress. Our biggest concern is that the boy is taller than her and stronger and very aggressive towards anyone, and he is going to end up hurting his 8 year old sister (who is the size of a 5 year old) he is already lashing out his sister whenever she is in the living room (his bedroom) regardless of what she is doing. The mother simply excuses this behavior and relocates her daughter to another room. Also worth noting is that the boys diet consists of mainly pastas pizza, hot dogs, etc. She refuses to try a Gluten free diet on him; she stated that he became sick when she tried it before. He is taking risperidone and melatonin.
Should we report her to DCF? She has been investigated before but nothing came of it. She also been told about Cafe Mom, but thinks it is a joke :( I know that this is not any of my business, but I am really concerned and need to know what I should do, please do not bash me for asking.