How do I tell my children about their brother?
My youngest child who is almost 3 was diagnosed in June with ASD. I also have a 5 year old girl and 7 year old boy. They still don't know about their little brother having Autism. My husband and I never sat them down to tell them the news. They see him go through all his therapy every week but I've always just said that he just needs a little help with his speech and just played it out like that. I don't talk about all the other issues he has that they work on. They also know when he turns three he will stop early intervention and go to a school. They don't realize it's a "special" school just for him and kids like him.
When I thought I would tell them about their brother I bought a book titled "My Autistic Brother". I still haven't given it to them. I don't know what I'm waiting for. I guess I don't want them to worry about him. But sometimes when my little one goes into sensory overload and he becomes aggressive toward them I wish I could just tell them so they can understand him better. I'm sometimes afraid they will think he's just a brat. And he's not. He can't help himself. But will telling them make a difference? Will they truly understand what that means? How do you explain Autism to a 5 and 7 year old? How do you tell kids that some kids' brains are wired differently? Should they even know? I guess maybe I just want to do or say the right thing but I don't really know what that is.
Has anyone gone through telling the siblings? How do you handle it? What reaction did you get?