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Wondering if I should get my son evaluated...

Posted by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 11:40 AM
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I'm new to the forum  - looking for some experienced moms' insight on the autisum (i'm actually thinking my son might have mild aspergers) issue, and whether I should look into having my son evaluated...  I know getting a label is a big deal, and I don't want to pursue something that might not be necessary...

I have an incredibly bright 6 year old boy - he was reading by the age of 4, doing 100 piece puzzles by the same age, literally never forgets ANYTHING about anything - he can recall things that happened when he was 2 or 3 with vivid detail, currently reads at way above grade level, memorizes large quantities of information on a topic hes interested in with little effort in a very short amount of time, etc.  He is also developmentally on track physically - but he's not very coordinated, can't do alot of things as well as his 4yr old brother can (athletically) and he's often awkward in social situations - gets physically too close to people, will lick people, does/says awkward things that other kids don't do like overreacting when kids won't play with him by spitting, or trying to physically make them do what he wants, throwing a tantrum, etc. 

Some of his most concerning traits are the following: he has a great deal of anxiety if things are not always the same way - if he misses his morning video, if we don't listen to the right music in the car, if we say something will happen at 11:30 and it doesn't happen until 11:31.  He also has texture issues - if his clothes feel too bumpy or rough, or the peanut butter is 100% smooth, or the sheets are too wrinkly. And he has smell issues - he grosses out if he doesn't like the smell of something.  He gets very anxious/worried about every little thing - whether or not we can look at toys in the store, or what car we are taking - and will ask me rapid-fire questions about these topics, often so desperately that he will stutter and not be able to get them out.  In addition, he will often say a sentence/question out loud, and then I can see his lips moving/eyes moving back and forth as he repeats it to himself for whatever reason... Some days I have to ask him repeatedly to look at me in the eyes before he will do so.  He will overreact very quickly to something that he doesn't like - will snap/yell/hit at his brother if he simply makes a noise he doesn't like, will throw a crying fit that could last an hour if he thinks I'm not listening,.. you get the idea.

Since he fits some of the symptoms and not others, and the severity varies from day to day (some days his symptoms are very, very mild - some days much more pronounced), I'm not sure if this is just his personality or a larger issue I might need to address... Any help/guidance would bo soooo appreciated.

by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 11:40 AM
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mommy1394m
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 12:15 PM
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I would get him evaluated. He may even have a sensory issue.
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Youngat40
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 1:48 PM

Have him tested.  Sounds so much like my son and he was diagnosed in Kindergarten.  He is in 3rd now.  Good luck.

amonkeymom
by Amy on Oct. 8, 2012 at 2:00 PM
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Welcome to the group.  I think you should follow your mommy instincts.  Likely if you're sensing that there's something going on, there is. 

(((hug)))

cawdjohns
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 2:16 PM

can i ask you a pretty simplistic question??  once he was diagnosed, what happened?  did they put him on meds and/or give you techniques to help you/him cope? Has he progressed since the diagnosis?  Sorry, I'm very new at all this...

jconney80
by Bronze Member on Oct. 8, 2012 at 4:16 PM
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I would definitely have him evaluated. He sounds so much like my kids. Having a diagnosis will help him have access to lots of different therapies.

They generally figure out what he needs the most. All of my kids are starting occupational therapy, which helps with all kinds of things such as transitioning from one thing to the next, sensory problems, coordination, focusing on activities. They will give you tools for preventing meltdowns or dealing with them. So far it is really helping us. They also can offer social therapy, behavioral therapy, skills training, and speech therapy.

All of the things you are saying definitely sounds like Aspergers and that he has sensory issues going on along with it.

Do you have an IEP at school yet? That's another thing you can do in the meantime. The school district can evaluate him and offer therapies as well. The evaluation process for older kids can take a very long time. You also can ask your pediatrician to refer you to a childrens hospital for occupational therapy. He sounds like he could qualify for it and it would help get the ball rolling with you getting some help for him.
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rsyoung73
by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 11:31 AM
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I have two with autism.  One is moderate, we had him diagnosed two years ago at 6.  His brother is 7, we have not had him diagnosed and may not. When Kyle was diagnosed we got him lots of therapy and even SSI.  He still needs every once of it.  Ethan on the other hand is doing so well.  They treat his sensory issues at school without his diagnoses.  Both have IEP's.  I've found that these sesory issues and hang ups that they have, even the social issues can be treated without the diagnoses.  The only issue really is rather you are concerned about the label.  It is permeant.  Ethan may be able to control his as he matures.  So we are waiting to see.  He is our little time keeper.  He throws fits if we are one minute ealy or late.  The best advice is just patience. The quirks may always be there, so love them regardless.  Rebecca

twinsnseptember
by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 12:00 PM
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Yep. What everyone else said. Call ur peri and get a referred to a pediatrics developmental specialist.
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Rachelle11503
by on Oct. 10, 2012 at 10:40 AM

Definitley get him evaluated, My daughter is a lot like that...very intellegent, especially in topics of interest, great rote memory...but then autism to go with it. Also look into an OT in your area, the one my daughter goes to does free screenings...and see if you can get him an evaluation with an OT (usually 90 minutes) The coordination and the textures...are all big signs of Sensory Processing Disorder...look into that there are a lot of great books out there about it like the Out of Sync Child and, The Sensory Sensitive Child

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