Good morning ladies!
I have been in an on going battle with my brother and sister in law about my four year old niece and the possibility she may have Autism.
I don't know much about the disease and they know even less but it is very evident that my niece has a special need of some sort. My reading, researching and discussions with other parents have lead me to believe she should be tested for Autism. I love my nieces, my brother, his wife very much and I know how scarey it must be to watch your child not be like other children. I can only assume that fear and ignorance is the main reason why they won't take her to be looked at and tested.
I fear that the longer they ignore the problem the taller the deck gets stacked against her and I do not believe that to be fair. She should have the best care and support they are able to give her and they don't give her any.
I have a two part question; first if a four year old child displays behaviour such as not knowing how to communicate, not playing or engaging with other children, not making eye contact, not knowing how to properly express pain, hurt, happines, hunger, having abnormal attachments to particular toys (for her they have to be "matching" and if one goes missing she FREAKS for HOURS), she also at this age couldn't tell you who she was, who everyday people in her life are and even people like my mother who sees her everyday can't get a hug or aknowledgement when she is around, are these indicative of a child who has Autism or am I just overreacting? And if she should be tested how do I get her parenst to understand "the sooner, the better?"? Are there books? Videos? Pamphlets? Something that can help them feel comfortable knowing it's okay if she is diagnosed and she has the potential to leave a functionng life if they are willing to put in the effort?
If I am putting way too much into this and need to back off, please tell me, otherwise I really need some input. Thanks in advance!