My son has a classmate with aspergers. The student has always had this obsession with my son for like the last three years or so. They are in the seventh grade. When my son tries to stay away from him he continues to harass him. Example: my son and a friend are talking, the other child comes up and tells my child to shut up. It doesn't seem like a big deal but it is constant. Daily, in every class they have together. The other child's mother told me that the child was angry that my son wouldn't be his best friend a couple years ago, and that's where this stems from. So- I have made the mistake, I feel, of telling my son to ignore the boys behavior. I have told him he can't help it, be nice, ignore him, etc. soooo it has gotten worse, way worse. The boy hit my son a couple days ago and my son didn't tell me, but today I got a call from the principal saying there had been a report my son had bullied the student. (the principal also stated that he was not clear that it was indeed bullying) I checked with the teacher of the class that the alleged bullying took place in, and that teacher too verified that she hadn't seen bullying behavior from my son and that it must have been a parent complaint. We have tried to be so nice because we have so much empathy for this family, but I think we are going to have to start documenting all the harassment my son is enduring and report it. The other child has been in trouble for violence on a couple previous occasions (not kids I know but one got hurt pretty bad). Anyway, the question is- should I call the boys mother before I start reporting things. I mean it's highly likely that there are going to be several instances a week that I report, should I give her the heads up or not. A mutual friend of ours indicated to me that she may actually believe that my son is bullying hers so that's what I may be walking into. Any advice?