Okay I need some help and maybe some suggestions about a luring problem as well as an organizational issue . My DS is 12 almost 13 lately his problem with lowing to us has increased by a lot now. I know some of this is age and some is because he wants to make us happy but it has taken on a very serious turn . The serious turn is he has being not been turning in the excuse notes from being absent and today we got a note saying he is truent and we have to report for a school hearing in January because of it . Now his teachers and especially his case manager have been working really hard to get him organized. We had tried folders for every class which would stay in class for class work and binders as well as a homework folder that kinda worked last year . Well it wasn't this year so his case manager talked to one of the other special Ed teachers and came up with using the acordien folders one for his am classes and another for his pm classes as well as one for homework. That seems to be a lot less over welming for him and work awhile lot better . Well last week we had an eligibility meeting and his teachers gave me a copy of his grades and a print out of the assignments ect . Well he has been sick a lot ately and so he has been absent a lot . So I expected his grades would reflect that a little but to my surprise they were really low cause he was mussing a lot of assignments due to him not getting his make up work .So we went over that (he and I hisDad works nights) and I wrote them all down for each class and put that in his folders . When asked why he was missing this stuff he finally confessed to lieing about getting the make up work . Okay important lie number one then Monday night I happen to have to move his backpack out of my chair and noticed that it had a lot of loose papers in it and I asked him about it .His reply was most that that most of it was trash .Well I started going through it and found some of the missing assignments as well as a lot of the notes from when he has been absent so I got on him about it and told him I was putting them in his homework folder to turn in the next day .Well that never happened lie number 2 . So this evening he hands me a letter saying we have to go to a hearing in January at the school about why is is going on . So my question is what do I do about the listing, the lack of organization. And what do I do about the hearing? I thought about getting an advocate but don't know how to get one .
on Dec. 5, 2012 at 8:49 PM