Stupid teacher, how do I deal with her?
My son had to switch schools. Not because of his behavior but because of others behavior and a lack of any help from the school. He's done really well with the switch. He's a stud.
Well learning the ropes, routines, schedules of a new school is really challenging. It's hard for any kid to switch mid-year, but for any child on the AS its even worse. The first few days I've waked him in, helped him find his seat, helped learn what he has to do before class starts. All the things I can besides sit with him all day holding his hand. After school I pick him up and we go over the leaving for the day routines. Backpack, lunch box, homework, chair pushed in. And talk to the teacher about how the day went and everything else. I feel having a close relationship with my children's teachers helps. It helps teachers to know they can come to me. It makes sure my kids know there is no games allowed because I talk to the teacher.
anyway, he's been at this school almost 2weeks now. The teacher has already pulled me aside to discuss the possibility of my son having some form of autism. Check, nice going teacher, we are figuring that out as we speak. Another time she is sure he's somehow cheating on his math facts. Nope, he just knows them. Sorry teacher. A third time a different conversation comes up, she can read a story to the entire class, send them to take a quiz, my son doesn't pass. Only one in the class who doesn't. She's concerned about his comprehension and retention. I figure valid concern, how does she want me to help with this at home. We read every night, he is read to and reads on his own. She wants myself and her to try and help him learn how to remember books and stories. Remind him when he's quizzing, to read all the answers, think about whatever characters are in the question. Normal stuff. So I've been doing that with him.
Today wonderful teacher snaps at me for doing just this. Helping my son. I'm not giving him the answers. I'm trying to help him remember by pointing out characters and the question. She snaps at me that at other school parents have to be 10feet away from quizzing students. I wanted to turn around nd flip her off. (I didn't) but it made my son shut down. He turned off the quiz and went and hid. I was so angry at her. Then here comes math facts. The kids get 1 minute to complete 40 problems. Ready set go, everyone is writing. The math brought my son back to his desk without anyone having to convince him. He loves his dang numbers that much. 1minute over and they go one more time. This time teacher lost track of time, the whole class only got 45 seconds (I was watching the clock) my son didnt finish his 40problems. He couldn't leave them blank though so he finished them after the time. Teacher came up to him very last and not looking at him or his paper told him his didnt count he cheated and if he cheats again she won't let him continue doing his math facts with the class.
Yes I know he didnt finish on time. Yes I know he kept writing. But to tell him he cheated in front of the whole class, I'm one really angry, upset mom. I walked out after checking on my son. But I don't know what to say to teacher. I'm angry with her.
How do I deal with this?