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Need advice for home school (long sorry)

Posted by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 6:17 AM
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My eight year old has somewhat between mild and severe autism.He is on medications,he is in therapy every week and he is in a special school program. He has been in school since 17 months.(Early intervention)He has been evaluated many times.

Fast forward to yesterday, he basically had a meltdown in school and said some weird shit that would concern anyone,I get that.However when he is having a tantrum,his mouth just goes on over drive.His sped teacher understands this.

Apparently the principle of the school was present during this meltdown and fully believed my eight year old wanted to kill him self(this is a regular school,he is in a program within the school so this principle has zero experience with these kids).

I was told that before he could return to school he needed to be evaluated or they would file a 51 a on me. Um hello he has been evaluated many times,we know whats wrong with him wtf??This is not the first time either,this school has threatened me before. He is on meds, he is under several doctors care,he has a therapist,he is in a special program. What else can I possibly do??I am not putting him in the hospital for Christmas,for some stupid shit he said in the heat of the moment that has happened many times before at school.

Anyway my point is basically I have had it with this school and decided I am going to home school him. Has anyone else had experience homeschooling special ed children and is there a more preferred curriculum out there for them than others?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I live in Mass,if anyone has specific info for my state.

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CreziaMommyTo2
by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 6:21 AM

what does his IEP state... she cannot force you to remove him from school.  this whole thing is screaming lawsuit, and i am not a sue happy person.

sorry you have to deal with this and sorry i cant be more help, but please do not listen to this woman...a school CANNOT force you to do ANYTHING... if he has an IEP stating his disabilities and stims etc. then there is NOTHING she can do

VioletsMomTown
by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 7:12 PM

I think he means well, he wants to know that your son is okay. He might feel obliged to say something if he suspects your son could hurt himself. He doesn't know your kid. I would just get his therapist to give the principal a call and explain. Whether you choose to take him out of the school or not, it would be good for the principal to hear, so that he might react differently next time.

blessedhappymom
by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 7:40 PM
We homeschool my son. First you need to know what your state laws are for homeschooling. You can find this at the Homeschool Legal Defense League. As far a curriculum, there are a ton and I have t found one that is specifically for kids with autism, but there are some. For instance, All About Reading and All About Spelling are good. I did a ton a research on the different curriculums to pick what worked for my son an just pieced everything together instead of buying a packaged curriculum. Also Calvert has some states that use their curriculum with a virtual school. If you have any other questions, I'm happy to help :-)
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kajira
by Emma on Dec. 18, 2012 at 9:07 PM

I homeschool my special needs child.

I use spectrum work books and buy the book sthat go for more then one grade so he can go as fast or slow as he wants, and as long as he can understand what he's learning, were good. we do a lot of unstructured learning too on top of the book work - I do just enough book work to meet grade standard/state standard so I have proof he learned stuff for his age/grade - the rest is all whatever we feel like learning.

we talk a lot, he wants to learn abotu lava - we look it up and then look up science experiments... he wants to learn about hot air balloons, etc, you get the idea. we let him ask questions, we provide answers and look stuff up.

He learns *a lot* - the main key is keep working with all his specialists so they'll be on yur side and if you need intervention or extra stuff, you can get it.

Also, even if you homeschool, most districts are still required to support and provide services via an IEP even if he's being homeschooled.

So, there's options for public services, even if he's not AT school every day.

Proud-young-mom
by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 9:53 PM
I have been through something similar but not the exact same time. My ds is 5. And only in kindergarten. Also this was the 1st time he been at a school. He been either in headstart or a babysitter. But not school. Also he didnt have an iep. But after 3 weeks the teacher kept telling me. My son has adhd. And just constant complaints. I just pulled him after the principal wouldnt do anything. I wanted my son class changed. I sat in on the class 3 times. And she treats 5 year old like 8 year olds. The teacher taught 3rd grade for 9 years. She didnt allow them to play. Work them to death. And told me kindergarten changed. After the teacher hit my son on the hand. I pulled him out. I could have sued the school. My son has aspergers so he very intelligent just the social cues. And at the time everything was new. But as far as homeschooling. Check your states law. Gd luck!!!
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blessedhappymom
by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 10:05 PM
Complely agree with takin the child's lead on what they want to learn. I read a book called Pete the Cat I Love my White Shoes and my son loved it. I found stuff online and he learned to read the color words from the supplemental learning from this book. I thinks it's the best way to learn


Quoting kajira:

I homeschool my special needs child.

I use spectrum work books and buy the book sthat go for more then one grade so he can go as fast or slow as he wants, and as long as he can understand what he's learning, were good. we do a lot of unstructured learning too on top of the book work - I do just enough book work to meet grade standard/state standard so I have proof he learned stuff for his age/grade - the rest is all whatever we feel like learning.

we talk a lot, he wants to learn abotu lava - we look it up and then look up science experiments... he wants to learn about hot air balloons, etc, you get the idea. we let him ask questions, we provide answers and look stuff up.

He learns *a lot* - the main key is keep working with all his specialists so they'll be on yur side and if you need intervention or extra stuff, you can get it.

Also, even if you homeschool, most districts are still required to support and provide services via an IEP even if he's being homeschooled.

So, there's options for public services, even if he's not AT school every day.


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Bluerose1482
by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 10:55 PM

If I were you, I'd get his dr to write an offical letter to the school stating that your son is currently under his care, he is aware of what happened and that he is handling the situation.  Even if I decided to homeschool him, I'd take care of that first because I wouldn't want to have an issue with social services showing up behind nonsense.

TheJerseyGirl
by on Dec. 19, 2012 at 5:10 AM

 My best advice would be to search online for a good program...hopefully there's some support there. I'd also check around your area for other programs or homeschoolers like your son.

Believe me, the second Im not happy with my son;s progress or treatment at school, I would also pull him out and homeschool.  Good luck !! And let us know what you find.

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