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Posted by on Dec. 20, 2012 at 5:18 PM
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So how does this work?  I have never done this before.  I have a son who is 4 years old and starting to have a hard time, not sure what to do?  I question if he is on the spectrum.

by on Dec. 20, 2012 at 5:18 PM
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by on Dec. 20, 2012 at 5:29 PM

 Hello and Welcome! How does what work?? lol.. this group? You just write a post just like you did.. or respond to a post you see listed. :)  What do you mean by "having a hard time"? If you don't mind me asking.   Here is a website about autism and the signs.

by on Dec. 20, 2012 at 5:39 PM

Thank you for your response.  I have never posted before or signed up for a support type group before.  My son is becoming more behavioral.  He has always had speech difficulties, but lately he doesnt listen when told something.  If its not want he wants alot of times he will get upset.  The most recent incident was going to gymnastics.  He loves it when he is there and he is getting pretty good at it (listening and following along) but today was different.  He first said "no gymnastics" over and over and then when we showed up he just lost it.  Crying, refusing, yelling.  Honestly it was just so embarrassing and he wasnt able to be calmed down until he left.  The other mothers were getting upset because the coach came out to try to help but of course it was eating into their kids time so they were not happy.  I feel like there is subtle signs but I get mixed feedback from specialists.  The pediatrician doesnt see it (other than the language piece), we took him to the neurologist that said no but I pushed for a revisit six months later.  She then at that time said it looks to be more ADHD but cant diagnose this young.  After me seeming concerned she said if we wanted to we could go for more involved testing to another neurologist if we felt the need.  What does that mean?  I dont know? His teacher feels he exhibits characteristics of autism. I just feel so confused and want to do the best thing for my son.


by Carissa on Dec. 20, 2012 at 10:09 PM

Welcome to  the group!

by on Dec. 21, 2012 at 5:58 AM

 Welcome! The first thing to do is get him tested and diagnosed...if you dont know of a doctor, I'm sure your pediatrician can recommend one!

by Member on Dec. 21, 2012 at 9:07 AM


Read up on some of the Autism signs and note which ones your son exhibits. Video as well any behaviors you are concerned about. Then you can take it to your pediatrician and they should be able to steer you in the direction of someone who can evaluate him.  I think you can call your school district and get him evaluated as well?? We are in Early Intervention right now which is birth to 3, then we transition to the school district. So maybe they can help too if there is any delays going on.

Good luck!

by Platinum Member on Dec. 21, 2012 at 9:42 AM

Welcome to the group. This is an amazing group of women who speak from experience. I have found out more information about things on here from other mothers than any doctor could have told me. The first thing to do is step back and take a breath. I know that sounds cliche but believe me sometimes that is the best thing. I agree with Kellbel08. Go to Autism they are a great source. I would continue to press the issue with the doctors until you feel like you have the answers you need. Our children are misdiagnosed so often that they don't get the help they need. Early intervention is the key doctors say. I have found that mother's intuition is usually right on. So if you feel there is more going on that what they are saying then keep pushing. We are our children best advocates. Nobody will fight like a mother when it comes to her children.

by on Dec. 21, 2012 at 10:16 AM

Just take this one day at a time. First step is see your doctor. Don't get too wrapped up in what's next until you get your diagnosis. Good luck!

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