I am a step mom of a 13 year old Autistic girl. She is non-verbal, has temper tantrums and can become very agressive if she doesn't get what she wants or if she is told NO. She was adopted from the Ukraine at 10 months old by my husband and his previous wife. My husband has never been able to have kids of his own so this causes him to be very protectiveof her and nothing I do for her is right or good enough. So I've had to step back and let him be in total control. I have two boys of my own, one 19 years old and one 14 years old. Not saying that I've been a perfect parent and my kids are perfect, just meaning I do have a little bit of experience in parenting. Because I am not allowed to contribute to her care when she is in our home is very frustrating for me. Not only does this alienate me from them when she is there, because she requires 100% attention at all times, but it is very frustrating for me to sit back and watch the mistakes he consistantly makes by giving in to her and allowing her to win in every situation. Im not sure if I'm looking for help .... maybe just a place to vent and see if there is someone else out there that is in the same situation as I and can relate.