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Posted by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 10:13 AM
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Hello, I'm a mom of 4 boys; oldest is 8 and he has been diagnosed adhd and very mild asperger's syndrome. He is very smart but has social issues. He seems to have emotional breakdowns after school some days and I think it is bc of his issues of not fitting in. The problem is he's unable to comminicate details of events to us. He's all over the place and can't identify his feelings and why he feels the way he does; so we can't even get to trying socialization strategies and role playing! I know it is nothing compared to what others are dealing with but...
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by Dawn on Jan. 30, 2013 at 12:39 PM

Welcome to the group! There is help out there for him through social skills training offered from a speech therapist. You should contact your school district about his diagnosis in writing and request an evaluation for Special Education services (http://www.wrightslaw.com/). You will find a wonderful database on Asperger's Syndrome at http://www.aspergersyndrome.org/. You can also find a lot of good information about ADHD at http://www.chadd.org/. You can find good support groups at TheARC (http://www.thearc.org/), Autism Society (http://www.autism-society.org/), and Easter Seals (http://www.easterseals.org/). You can find activities for him at Variety Club (http://www.usvariety.org/) and Special Olympics (http://www.specialolympics.org/).

Dawn
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by Member on Jan. 30, 2013 at 1:37 PM

My daughter has social issues too!  It is to say the least depressing!  My daughter is in 2nd grade.  She is an only child.  She had trouble relating stories to us too.  I would watch her on the playground.  It was terrible.  I got her help over lunch and recess, high social times.( TSS , two hours each day and autistic support lunches once a week; to name a bit of her support).  I have a HUGE support team  for my high functioning daughter, and she still has trouble.  She is in a regular public school classroom.  All I can say is work on it now with your Dr's ,school and teachers.  In my case it has helped but we still have a long way to go.   AS far as what others deal with......we ALL struggle and ALL our feelings count.  Having a child that looks normal and is very high functioning is VERY difficult.  It has serious challenges.   I have found support by reading these posts.  I have been pondering the thought that maybeIi try to hard to make her "fit in".  In my case, if I did not make her be involved, SHE WOULD NOT.  There is rejection, it sucks.  I'm just afraid allowing her to stay in her toy room and play with her dolls( Who do not talk back, challenge her, let her be the boss, etc.) is not the best way to handle the situation.  I pay for many private lessons..........piano, dance and she does a regular open dance class with other girls.  This activity has helped her.  I will say the private dance lessons made an 85% improvement in her dancing.  The one on one instruction has been key to her success in the other open class.  It's like a review.  It's expensive.  I don't know if your son does any activities, but being able to  be involved in an activity that has regular and  private lessons may be worth a try. You can build up confidence, a relationship with instructor, and when your on your own, your not worried about other kids. Good Luck!

amonkeymom
by Amy on Jan. 30, 2013 at 2:43 PM

Welcome to the group!  My youngest is my child on the spectrum and he has had social issues as well, similar to your son's it sounds like.

Does he have a school counselor or therapist who can help him learn how to sort out his feelings and teach him strategies that will help?  I'm thinking someone at school because they can observe some of the issues and intervene as needed.

Quoting mommanuk:

Hello, I'm a mom of 4 boys; oldest is 8 and he has been diagnosed adhd and very mild asperger's syndrome. He is very smart but has social issues. He seems to have emotional breakdowns after school some days and I think it is bc of his issues of not fitting in. The problem is he's unable to comminicate details of events to us. He's all over the place and can't identify his feelings and why he feels the way he does; so we can't even get to trying socialization strategies and role playing! I know it is nothing compared to what others are dealing with but...


tictacmama
by Arlea on Jan. 30, 2013 at 2:47 PM

 Welcome to the group :) My sons are still young but I know there are a lot of great moms here  you'll be able to bounce ideas off of.

TheJerseyGirl
by Michele on Jan. 30, 2013 at 5:33 PM
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Welcome to the group!

We're experiencing that with my 11 year old and not only is it hard to know what to say but it breaks my heart as well.
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