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New here, and questions about extra help academically

Posted by on Feb. 11, 2013 at 12:27 PM
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Hello!  I have an 8 yo boy diagnosed with Asperger's.  He is not getting the education he needs in public school.  His behaviors and sensory issues keep him from learning and the school isn't doing much to accommodate him.  I am looking for another source to help him catch up in reading.  Has anyone ever used a program like Sylvan Learning Center?  I am also checking into the Brain Balance centers.. any experience?  Any other programs I should check into?  I am in Central IL.  Thanks!!

Jessi

by on Feb. 11, 2013 at 12:27 PM
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amonkeymom
by Amy on Feb. 11, 2013 at 12:59 PM

Sylvan is really expensive, my nephew was enrolled there for a while and in the end it really didn't help him.  I don't have any info on Brain Balance though.

Welcome to the group.

emarin77
by Silver Member on Feb. 11, 2013 at 2:24 PM

Does he have an IEP? Having an IEP can help with having a teacher available to help him with his reading.

TheJerseyGirl
by Michele on Feb. 11, 2013 at 2:37 PM
I was also wondering if he has an IEP. With that they are legally bound to give him extra help as far as therapists, aides, resource room, etc
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dawncs
by Dawn on Feb. 11, 2013 at 4:22 PM
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Welcome to the group! Have you requested an evaluation for Special Education services for free from his school in writing under law which can be located under http://www.wrightslaw.com/? You can learn more about Learning Disabilities at http://www.ldonline.org/. He should have sensory integration therapy in Occupational Therapy and including working on his fine motor skills at school which can help him a lot. For information about his disability, you can learn about it at http://www.aspergersyndrome.org/ and http://www.autism-society.org/. You can find activities for him to do at http://www.easterseals.org/ (or at least my local one does), http://www.thearc.org/, http://www.specialolympics.org/, and http://www.usvariety.org/.

Dawn
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jessicatae
by on Mar. 3, 2013 at 9:20 PM

Thank you all for responding.  He does have an IEP.  He goes to Special Ed class for reading, spelling and language.  Last year he had a one on one aide because of aggressive behavior.  He is much better with that this year, so they took the aide away.  He has a lot of trouble in math because he can't read the instructions.  The aide he has in the classroom helps three other kids.  If he isn't working well they send him to the Special Ed room.  I feel like he is taken out of class way more than he should be (like the teacher doesn't want to deal with it, so sends him away.)  We (my mother, grandmother and I) had a meeting with his teacher and his Special Ed teacher a couple of weeks ago and expressed our concerns.  The behaviors that get him sent out of class continue in the Special Ed room as well.  Instead of one on one help, he usually gets put in the 'cool down' area, or sent to the school counselors office for most of the day.  Then he comes home with piles of "homework" that he didn't get done at school.  I feel that his teacher gets into power struggles with him instead of trying to help him.  Example:  He used one of his pencils down to a little nub.  She told him to get a new one out... so he put the nub in his pencil case and got out a new one.  She told him no, he had to throw it away.  He asked if he could put it in his bookbag to take home and she told him no and forced him to put it in the trash.  My son gets very strong attachments to things and was distraught about throwing the pencil away.  It upset him for the rest of the day, as he tends to obsess over things.  There was no reason that she couldn't let him take that pencil home.  

Other behaviors that get him removed from class- touching/smearing glue and other tactile items, loud noises and talking that interrupt other students, tearing paper, writing too hard (ripping the paper), not following commands after multiple prompts.... He does have kicking/yelling fits when anxious or upset.  I am fine with the cool down room at times like that, but they do nothing to help calm his senses when this happens.

I really want to home-school him, but as a single mom, I don't know how I can do it.  I am considering working around my work schedule and schooling him evenings/weekends.  I have three other children as well who excel in school. 

girl_incognito
by on Mar. 4, 2013 at 6:36 AM

First off momma, forcing him to do school work as homework... I'd stop that. He needs modified assignments.

Second, he needs a GOOD behavior plan, if his behaviors are interfering with his learning they need to figure out a way to teach him. Also just because they say they have a behavior plan doesn't mean it's a good one.


Your case sounds a lot like ours when it first began, lots of provoking on the teachers part. Inflexible teacher meets inflexible child... doesn't work.

Ask for training for the staff. It seriously sounds like they don't grasp what autism is and how to teach him. They have to teach him how he learns, not force him to learn the way they teach. Also instead of sending him to a cool down spot once things get crazy, they need to schedule sensory breaks for him throughout the day, it can make a huge difference.

Read the website wrights law that was posted above. Get an advocate. :) I think you have a good case. He is being excluded from regular class because he has autism, and that's not cool. 

Quoting jessicatae:

Thank you all for responding.  He does have an IEP.  He goes to Special Ed class for reading, spelling and language.  Last year he had a one on one aide because of aggressive behavior.  He is much better with that this year, so they took the aide away.  He has a lot of trouble in math because he can't read the instructions.  The aide he has in the classroom helps three other kids.  If he isn't working well they send him to the Special Ed room.  I feel like he is taken out of class way more than he should be (like the teacher doesn't want to deal with it, so sends him away.)  We (my mother, grandmother and I) had a meeting with his teacher and his Special Ed teacher a couple of weeks ago and expressed our concerns.  The behaviors that get him sent out of class continue in the Special Ed room as well.  Instead of one on one help, he usually gets put in the 'cool down' area, or sent to the school counselors office for most of the day.  Then he comes home with piles of "homework" that he didn't get done at school.  I feel that his teacher gets into power struggles with him instead of trying to help him.  Example:  He used one of his pencils down to a little nub.  She told him to get a new one out... so he put the nub in his pencil case and got out a new one.  She told him no, he had to throw it away.  He asked if he could put it in his bookbag to take home and she told him no and forced him to put it in the trash.  My son gets very strong attachments to things and was distraught about throwing the pencil away.  It upset him for the rest of the day, as he tends to obsess over things.  There was no reason that she couldn't let him take that pencil home.  

Other behaviors that get him removed from class- touching/smearing glue and other tactile items, loud noises and talking that interrupt other students, tearing paper, writing too hard (ripping the paper), not following commands after multiple prompts.... He does have kicking/yelling fits when anxious or upset.  I am fine with the cool down room at times like that, but they do nothing to help calm his senses when this happens.

I really want to home-school him, but as a single mom, I don't know how I can do it.  I am considering working around my work schedule and schooling him evenings/weekends.  I have three other children as well who excel in school. 


darbyakeep45
by Darby on Mar. 4, 2013 at 8:31 AM

Welcome to the group mama!

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