My 9 year old son sometimes slaps himself in the head when he's frustrated, especially when he's frustrated when he can't remember something. While it is definately harder than a friendly tap, he's not hitting himself hard enough to cause injury.
I address whatever is frustrating him, if possible. Like, if we are doing math homework, I let him take a short break, and we come back to it. If I don't know what is frustrating him or if there is nothing that I can do to address whatever his issue is, I just let him slap his head.
My 2 year old will smack or scratch herself if I am out of reach. If me, her dad or her sister are within reach she goes for us first...but if we step away and she is really, really frustrated, she will throw herself on the floor, scream and scratch, pinch or smack herself. I've even see her pull her own hair.
Sometimes my 4.5 year old hits me or my husband, his father only when angry. We just teach him to keep hands to himself and say I'm angry if he is. He is doing better at it now.
My son was a HUGE head banger and teeth grinder when he was younger and would at times throw himself into the wall. He still bangs his head sometimes but usually only against pillows or the padded back of the couch. My son also used to slap himself sometimes (though never punch). He also used to chew on basically everything including his own hands, figures and sometimes would bite. He does not do the slapping, biting and very little chewing or teeth grinding. When I talked to his therapist and teachers the consensus was that it was probably a combination of frustration and the desire for deep pressure to calm himself (except for the teeth grinding and chewing, which was figured as a need for oral sensory input).
He had deep pressure, wieghted blacket at night, and oral motor sensory added to his therapy and it really helped.
Dillon would bite his arm when he got frustrated sometimes but actually grew out of it.
Yes...my 4 year old will smack himself in the face or punch his own legs. It breaks my heart:(
that must be very hard to go threw.. how do you handle that



- ms.bardes
on Feb. 12, 2013 at 7:19 AM