Self harm, school issues, please read and help??
I have posted a lot, not recently but in my time in this and other groups I have posted about my son. He isn't diagnosed with Autism, because he no longer "fits" in that catagory. But had I had him tested at the ages of 2 to 6 it would have been no doubt. Unfortunately the amount of help he has gotten through his school has made it so he is no longer even able to be labled Autistic....for many people this is a good thing, I get lots of people saying " you should be happy"....here is why I am not happy about it.
NO ONE understands his actions, words, feelings, anything. He can act like a NT child, he can make friends, he can hold a conversation or at least LOOK like he is.
His brain works differently though. He doesn't understand sarcasm, he doesn't understand facial expressions, he doesn't understand feelings, his or others. He cannot show sympathy, he takes everything literally.
The teachers asked him if he felt safe at home, meaning is anyone doing him harm or hurting him...his understanding of that question was are there ways that you can get hurt at home i.e. falling from someplace high, tripping down stairs, things like that. He needs explanations of many things NT people would understand without much explanation.
Well lately he is angry. He gets way angry over things he cannot understand. If a friend is mean, or sarcastic he takes it badly and gets angry. He doesn't understand how to deal with anger, or how to expess any feeling really and it turns into bad behavior.
The last therapist wanted to put him on medication, rather than help find ways for him to learn to express his feelings better or help me find ways, instead she looked online and gave me websites because I wouldn't medicate him.
My feeling was, lets find a way to help him first if that doesn't work then we can talk about meds. She ididnt agree or care to listen to me.
Today I got a call...he had told a teacher he wanted to murder himself. now he doesn't really, he was just angry about a kid who was mean and was only reaacting with anger because he didn't know what else to do. He talks badly about himself, but only in these situations when someone is being mean to him. Again because he has no idea how to deal with or process what is happening.
But I do have to address it. My mom thinks he needs meds, I have to talk to the principle again to find out more about everything and explain to him why my son reacts the way he does.
My son doesn't understand that what he said means people think he wants himself to die, again I have to explain it to him in detail otherwise he doesn't get it. He just thinks its words that he can say to get people to help him. He was upset at me for thinking he wants to die, and said he doesn't want to he just says things.
I need help. What do I do? What do I say? Who has experience in this?
Yes we are getting into a therapist, yes I am very seriously looking into what he is saying and not taking it lightly. I just need some insight from others and maybe advice on what I can do?
sorry if this is all over, I am at work and trying to do two things at once. If you need to ask questions I can answer later this evening.