Can you help me determine the thought behind this action?
we have an autistic 4 year old and whenever practically anything happens, his father gets up to go to the bathroom, goes to the kitchen to get him food, tries to hand him food or drink, talks to him or just practically anything at all he will run into a wall, start kicking the wall or tv, and just tries to destroy stuff. we can't even come up with a reasoning behind it, I mean if someone hands you something it means take it and it should be painfully obvious even to a 4 month old (he has 10 month mentality).
I have to point out I am step mom and not actually related, his father has always been his primary caregiver. I cannot be around him much because he screams all day long to the point of causing earaches so it it mainly or only his father who takes care of him. No he is not verbal, just screams. Also, we have spoken to his dr.s and teachers and everyone just says put a helmet on him and carry on with everything, no real information is ever given or anything trying to be solved.