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Posted by on Apr. 3, 2013 at 11:20 PM
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My 5 year old son has been diagnosed with autism for a little over a year now and my 6 year old daughter was diagnosed last week with it as well. Today my 18 month old started sitting and spinning things for over an hour and has stopped making eye contact. I know that autism isn't horrible and I adore my older kids, I just don't know if I can handle the stress. I know that I'm horrible for even being scared about this.
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by Jen on Apr. 3, 2013 at 11:38 PM
Hugs momma
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by Dawn on Apr. 3, 2013 at 11:38 PM

Welcome to the group! You have to realize that genetics is something you can't control in life. Genetics is one of the factors that causes Autism in a child. I recommend contacting your local school district in writing requesting an Early Intervention assessment (, and you should state that your two oldest children are diagnosed with Autism. There is a chance she could have it. Your children are entitled to a free public education until age 21 years old. It is really good that your children got diagnosed young because it can help them reach their full potential in life. You have made a great start in helping your children in joining this group in learning more about Autism. I recommend your husband staying in the military because they have great benefits for dependent disabled children of military members. I recommend also joining a local support group for local resources through Autism Speaks (, Easter Seals (, and Autism Society ( You can find activities for them to do through Special Olympics (, TheARC (, Variety Club (, and TOPSoccer (


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by on Apr. 3, 2013 at 11:50 PM

Don't feel horrible for feeling that way, I'm sorry.


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by on Apr. 4, 2013 at 5:32 AM

 Thinking of you today, mama. Hugs.

by Darby on Apr. 4, 2013 at 6:36 AM

Big hugs!

by on Apr. 4, 2013 at 8:35 AM

Don't feel horrible. I have one on the Spectrum and I have days when I feel like I could cry. hugsGod must think you are one tough momma to bless you with more than one ASD child. Bless your heart. You are not alone. Hugs...

by Bronze Member on Apr. 4, 2013 at 10:19 AM

I can only imagine hon. ((HUGS))

by Silver Member on Apr. 4, 2013 at 11:25 AM

Hugs wintersdaughter You are not horrible for being scared.

I can't even imagine how difficult it is for you to have two children on the spectrum. You have every right to feel this way. Early intervention is best, as you probably already know. Starting young might give your 18 month old time to catch up.

Honestly, I have two boys. I would love to have a third child, but I am really worried about birthing a child that might be on the spectrum. I love my ASD son very much, but even moms are allowed to be human.


by on Apr. 4, 2013 at 12:55 PM

You are NOT horrible. You are a concerned Momma who has more than the average Momma's 'stuff' on her plate and you want to make sure you can do what you need to for your kids.

Just being concerned shows how very much you love them and want the best for them.

by on Apr. 4, 2013 at 3:45 PM

There is nothing horrible about looking at your sweet baby and worrying that this kid will have the same extra struggles, work, cost (oh god the costs), therapies, and everything else good or bad associated with autism.  I have two on the spectrum as well - my son is 2.5 and was diagnosed over a year ago while my 4 year old daughter just got diagnosed 3 months ago.  We want a third kid very much but we are TERRIFIED of having another with autism not because our two are horrible or anything other than wonderful silly kids who make us laugh every day.  But autism is not easy and those of us who know HOW HARD it can be first hand have that much more reason to worry and fear the very real challenges we and our kids may face. 

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