We had our first IEP meeting last week and so much time was spent by them reading the reports and assessments that by the time we got to services my eyes were glazed over and I dropped the ball and didn't fight for my son to be with NT kids. We didn't sign the IEP and after my head cleared I sent a long email with questions and concerns.
1. They proposed a program he could start now but with summer here it doesn't make sense to pull him from his current place as they checked no for extended school year even though we asked for it.
2. They kindergarten option they proposed was a new program, so new they don't even know who the teacher is with high functionign ASD kids, ADD and ADHD. The schools psyhologist mentioned he could be pulled for some gen but that wasn't documented anywhere.
In a nutshell I have sent them a very long email asking these and more questions. They also said an IEP is once a year and I said, not from what I've read we can request it at anytime and the lady got a huge attitude.
My question is with an unsigned IEP will the school agree to meet with us again to discuss options. How do we get an IEP that we both agree on. I will admit that we were so braindead that they thought they had to just re-do a few goals and then done so we did kind of blindside them with questions on placement but that is the whole reason we took the IEP home.
The interesting this is that I have a friend who knows a teacher at the school that the supposed special ASD program will be at and she was very surprised and said this school mainstreams as much as possible and she always has 1-2 ASD kids in her class and that she doesn't think this program will even happen. Doesn't sound very individualized to me.
Also, if you have goals that are social skill based such as playing in close proximity, talking, eye contact how do you accomplish those goals with not NT kids? Two ASD kids being prompted to do things together doesn't seem to be a very natural and productive thing as far as modeling behavior.