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My aspergers son

Posted by on Apr. 9, 2013 at 11:40 AM
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Hello everyone!
So I just joined this site hoping to find support from other mother's going through similar struggles. My son was recently diagnosed with borderline aspergers syndrome and ADHD. He is currently on medication for his ADHD due to his struggles in school however he struggles more with social situations and changes in routine. His fits lately have become unidentifiable. I cannot determine a meltdown compared to him just misbehaving. Bed time is a constant struggle. We can never get him to get in the shower in a timely manner and he wastes time doing other things such as messing with toothpaste or climbing up on the sink and writing words on the mirror. A thirty minute routine turns into two hours of him finding any little detail to prevent going to bed and ends up in me losing my patience. I'm at a loss at this point. Any advice??
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Macphee
by Silver Member on Apr. 9, 2013 at 11:47 AM

Hello mockingjay momma,

Some kids have sensory issues. I would implore you to redefine meltdowns and misbehaving. Some unwanted behaviors are simply noncompliant of I don't want to. Others are signs of discomfort. It is possible that your son might have sensory issues, which means that his body perceives his world differently from someone neurotypical. What might seem like a soothing warm shower might feel like needles on his skin.

Does he prefer baths? a softer spray maybe?

Try to come up with a consistent routine of bath, clothes and brushing. Think of what might help him relax in his room: lighting, music, stories, piling pillows on him, etc. His brain literally might not be able to calm down enough for him to go to sleep easily. If he has ADHD and is an Aspie, talk to his doctor about melatonin or serotonin deficiencies. Chemicals that regulate sleep, mood, and appetite in the brain might be imbalanced: just gene related. good luck.

 

dawncs
by Dawn on Apr. 9, 2013 at 11:49 AM

Welcome to the group! I recommend updating the school about his recent diagnosis and request an evaluation for Special Education services (http://www.wrightslaw.com/) including his diagnosis papers. He could really benefit from social skills training through a speech therapist (ST). You might also want him to have an evaluation with an Occupational Therapist (OT) for fine motor skills along with sensory integration problems. OT and ST can be done through the school services. You can help him make friends through signing him up for sports, activities, and clubs that match his interests because him having something in common makes conversations easier. You might want to create a routine for him when it comes to certain things through a social story of pictures which can make things easier. I also recommend reading: http://www.chadd.org/, http://www.ldonline.org/, http://www.autism-society.org/, http://www.aspergersyndrome.org/http://www.easterseals.org/, and http://www.thearc.org/.

Dawn


Group owner of Different Learners Support Group (http://www.cafemom.com/group/118648)

mockingjay_mama
by on Apr. 9, 2013 at 12:24 PM
Thank you for the great advice!
He actually does have an IEP in place with his school. I didn't hesitate with that. His ADHD diagnosis was first when he was in kindergarten and he is now in second grade. The teacher and I keep very close communication. She actually struggles with the same condition so she relates to him very well. I am soooo thankful for that!

His showers just became an issue actually. He never had an issue before. It is that he finds little things to waste time or prevent from going to bed thatbis the issue. His routine is shower get dressed brush teeth prayers tucked in lights out. Last night we prayed and he kept interrupting me saying it didn't make sense even though we pray it every night. Once we finally got through the prayer I fot downstairs and he startwd calling out to me saying we didnt pray. He called out to me for thirty minutes and when I finally went up it wasn't about prayer anymore it was he needed eye drops. Is this more of his condition or just wanting attention?
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TheJerseyGirl
by on Apr. 9, 2013 at 12:31 PM
I don't know how old your son is but my almost 12 year old does the same at bedtime! What I've done is eliminate a daily shower since he honestly doesn't get dirty.. I also do it a good hour befor bed and then let him relax.

He knows the routine here so after dinner dishes are put away he asks if its bath time... I find that when he gets to skip a day he's much more cooperative the next!
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dawncs
by Dawn on Apr. 9, 2013 at 12:38 PM

 It could be for attention regarding prayer. However, it might be an idea to talk about religion in a way that he does not hear at church. An idea is to share with him that it can bring comfort  when you need it most in life. Remind him that God is there for him every day,and he hears your prayers. It could be a good idea for a social story for him about religion and church, too.

Quoting mockingjay_mama:

Thank you for the great advice!
He actually does have an IEP in place with his school. I didn't hesitate with that. His ADHD diagnosis was first when he was in kindergarten and he is now in second grade. The teacher and I keep very close communication. She actually struggles with the same condition so she relates to him very well. I am soooo thankful for that!

His showers just became an issue actually. He never had an issue before. It is that he finds little things to waste time or prevent from going to bed thatbis the issue. His routine is shower get dressed brush teeth prayers tucked in lights out. Last night we prayed and he kept interrupting me saying it didn't make sense even though we pray it every night. Once we finally got through the prayer I fot downstairs and he startwd calling out to me saying we didnt pray. He called out to me for thirty minutes and when I finally went up it wasn't about prayer anymore it was he needed eye drops. Is this more of his condition or just wanting attention?

 

Dawn


Group owner of Different Learners Support Group (http://www.cafemom.com/group/118648)

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