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Can your autistic kid manipulate?

Posted by on Apr. 29, 2013 at 11:15 PM
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Maybe this is dumb question, but I hear so often how autistic people don't manipulate and I've seen the opposite... that they are capable of manipulation and smart enough to logically sort out problems to try and get things they want.... Sort of like not having a sense of humor - i've also seen plenty of autistic people who have a quirky sense of humor that can be very endearing and one of their best traits. Can your child manipulate? Or, do they ever try too???(Or, if you are autistic, are you capable of attempting to manipulate?)

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by on Apr. 29, 2013 at 11:15 PM
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jeda1429
by Member on Apr. 29, 2013 at 11:25 PM
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Yes, my son is actually very manipulating. Wish he wasn't lol

KatyTylersMom
by on Apr. 29, 2013 at 11:30 PM
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My 4 year old daughter just buttered up her visiting grandmother SO GOOD today.  Announced loudly to her bus driver "LOOK!! SEE MY GRANDMA?  MY FAAAAAAVORITE GRANDMA IS HERE!!!"  yeah.  She knows *exactly* what she's doing:)

kajira
by Emma on Apr. 29, 2013 at 11:37 PM

I was just curious, I responded to a post about bathing, that for my son since he would manipulate to get out of bathing, that we didn't negotiate with him and it worked for him... I dont' do that in every area, or on everything, but I posted that sometimes, you just have to "suck it up" and do it.. and my son's smart enough and logical enough to understand it.

I got a response to that that I wasn't expecting, and it got me thinking... because our specialists see how manipulative our son is and the "feel sorry for his disability" is the one piece of advice they told us to never, ever do when it comes to him.

If you give him an inch, he'll steal the mile, and it makes him worse long term.

He does so much better with black and white rules were he can't try to manipulate, or even freak himself out on purpose to get what he wants.

He told us that he screamed for hours once when he was 2 and it worked on grandma, and he proudly told the doctors that. ^.^


Quoting KatyTylersMom:

My 4 year old daughter just buttered up her visiting grandmother SO GOOD today.  Announced loudly to her bus driver "LOOK!! SEE MY GRANDMA?  MY FAAAAAAVORITE GRANDMA IS HERE!!!"  yeah.  She knows *exactly* what she's doing:)


Living with Autism - The quirky kitty.

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Mewlan
by on Apr. 29, 2013 at 11:53 PM

Nope...never did that.

mariat2
by Maria on Apr. 30, 2013 at 12:27 AM
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yes my son does that sometimes I say We have to go to sleep at 8:20 when hes playing his fav video game he says 9:00..he bargains with me and the teachers
busymommy98
by on Apr. 30, 2013 at 12:49 AM
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Oh my, yes! My son surprises me with how clever he can be. It would be funny if it wasn't so serious.

darbyakeep45
by Darby on Apr. 30, 2013 at 5:24 AM

Oh yes for sure!

girl_incognito
by on Apr. 30, 2013 at 5:31 AM

 He tries but he stinks at it, kinda like lying, he is no good at it.

loveTHEviking
by on Apr. 30, 2013 at 6:32 AM

Mine too & I also wish he wasn't!

Quoting jeda1429:

Yes, my son is actually very manipulating. Wish he wasn't lol


lucasmadre
by Kari on Apr. 30, 2013 at 7:38 AM
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My son is like a well trained lawyer, he can debate any position and would do so for hours on end if I let him. He works his dad and I against one another to take the heat off him. I would consider him a master manipulator. I always joke with him that I hope he uses his power for good when he grows up and not evil!!!! He also has an excellent sense of humor, and he is a great liar (another thing our kids aren't suppose to be able to do.) I like to think of austism as a blanket term that probably covers a huge group of different disorders, not just one thing....p.s. no such thing as a dumb question in my book :) good to see you post, haven't seen you in a while  XO

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