recently (like last 3 weeks recently) My daughter who is 5 started to throw tantrums when asked to wear underwear and pants. the same thing is happening with shoes. these are all the same items of clothing that she has worn previously, nothing about them has changed. no new fabrics, no new colors. she is fully potty trained as well. i understand not wanting to wear clothes but it is starting to impede our ability to do things outside of the house.
the issue is so bad that there is screaming and crying hitting and kicking involved. lots of "you go away" "i dont like you" and just melting into a pile of tears and non sensical screaming. I feel at a loss This is so new to me. she has tantrumed before in stages but as she gets older it is getting harder to control or even know what is setting her off. the hardest part is that she seems to lose her ability to communicate why she is upset or anything its just a pool of tears and i dont want to wear shoes or pants. but then i get nothing. I am trying to be patient, i have tried being very frank and clear. " you need to wear your shoes outside but when we get home you can take them off" :we have to wear our shoes because we dont want to hurt our feet" I have tried positive reinforcement. using the things that motivate her the most. candy, etc.
frankly I am exhausted and stuck. I could really use some advice.
does anyone have advice about what i can do to help her