Liam has his formal medical evaluation tomorrow. I am anxious. I'm not really sure why. He already has his diagnosis from clinical observations by several therapists, nurses and child psychiatrists during his 4 weeks of treatment at a day treatment program. The psychologists who are going to be doing the testing, had us do an interview first. She took me in a separate room explaining that they may change the diagnosis after testing (It may not be ASD-she says a lot kids who get evaluated receive a different diagnosis after testing, or if it is, many of the symptoms he has that gave him an ADHD diagnosis can be explained by ASD and they may take that diagnosis away) and then asked me a million questions. Then, she went and talked with Liam and I together for about 30 mins. Then she looked at me and said, "I don't think we'll be changing the diagnosis." I am thankful for that at least (it was just hard enough getting the diagnosis-not that I'm thankful my kid has had difficulty with things).
But, what I am really terrified is the cognitive evaluation. What if it comes back as something other than normal? I am worried that he might be really smart (I know every parent says that but I have 3 kids and Liam is different). I know that may sound ridiculous but it's hard enough trying to provide everything to help them reach their full potential when they are neurotypical, more challenging with ASD and what if their intelligence is different too? I don't have the resources to anymore for him. And I'm worried that if his IQ is high then people will understand him even less. And how am I going to be able to help him academically? I am worried that I can't do that adequately. And I don't know how I would get him what he needs to reach his full potential.
Hopefully, I am just anxious and there is no reason for my fears. That everything will come back average. I KNOW he has ASD and social skills are a challenge for him. I KNOW that these things will not change. THAT in itself is a hard thing to accept but I have. The funny thing is that I never really thought it was important. What always scared me was his intelligence. And now, tomorrow, I will know for sure.
Sorry ladies, I know it doesn't seem like something I should worry about. But I'm just anxious. Thank you for listening!
Well, the good news is that the testing went well. He did score Superior on much of the IQ test-blocks, budilding and design were his highest marks. He also tested Superior on vocabulary but average on comprehension and average on a few other things (I will get the formal report in the mail in 4-6 wks). They also said that even though he scored this way now, t won't give any determination how he will score when he's 10 yrs old. So, since when it's average or above, they don't pay attention to it. However, they did say that he will most likely qualify for Gifted classes as well as Special Education classes. If he went to public school and wasn't in an inclusion classroom, if he participated in both, when would he ever be in regular class anyways? I stated that I wanted to keep him in an ASD school, or at least a school with other kids that have other learning disabilities (ADHD, Dyslexia, etc.) for at least another year or two. Eventually, I want him to go back to a public school but I don't think he's ready yet. They agreed with me but really though it would be wise to try to get him services through the public school system even though our military insurance covers everything.
He was medically screened for Speech Therapy already and it was found that the ST didn't think that he needed it but the Child Psychiatrist/Psychologist group that conducted the evaluation are recommending Liam have it for learning social prompts, etc. They are also happy with Liam receiving OT and his therapy with the psychologist and continuing his medications through the psychiatrist. So, everything turned-out okay and if he "stays extra smart" by the time he is 10 yrs. old then that is the time I need to worry about it. I will still do all of what I normally do for him (we do academic activities at home too-I am a scientist, science is everywhere) and just focus on getting him the help he needs with his social skills, as I have been these past 4 months. The psychiatrist pointed-out that he has these questions that are 3 levels above where someone elses interests are. It's hard to explain (I know you ladies understand) but basically, because he doesn't care in the right fashion about your interest or understanding or what he is talking about, it makes it difficult for him to get accross his ideas to you. We will keep on working-he has already made a LOT of progress!!! :)