I am leaving my husband. Its been building up for a while. We seperated because he was an asshole, drinks, screams, treated me like crap, and hit me once.
we got back together after 2 years because I believe in making marriage work. he was in councelling, anger management, and AA. We were going to church, and things were better.
He went out last night with friends from work to go bowling. He told me he wasnt going to drink. i believed him. he told me in texts all night that he was not drinking.
Then he came home, gave me a kiss, and went to bed. I could smell the freaking beer on him!!!
Then i found 3 beers hiding in his closet for god knows how long its been there!!!
I cant do this anymore. I have decided that we are through. I cant love someone who does this. If he had a slip up, and needed help through it i would totally be there to help him. but he lied to me ALL NIGHT and is continuing to lie to me all day today. he still doesnt know that i know.
my daughter has even said to me a few times that she is confused about wether or not we should divorce daddy. :( :( it tears my heart to hear her say that.
I dont want to put her through so much! :( leaving him would devistate her, even if she thinks its a good idea. she loves him. i know she does :( and he loves her.
She is almost 10. And i know her so well, that i know when i talk to her about this, she is going to want to know WHY. and she will NOT let it go if i dont tell her
she knows daddy drinks beer too much. and that i dont like it.
do you think i should be completly honest with her and tell her that daddy wont stop drinking, and mommy cant love him anymore....