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Right now because of our move ethan is out of all his services and therapies. Anyway, he is licking and spitting all the time! How do I stop this? He has always liked doing these things but now its out of control.
by on Jun. 16, 2013 at 1:15 PM
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MomOfOneCoolKid
by Gold Member on Jun. 17, 2013 at 11:13 PM

 


Quoting EthansMomma2010:

 i do need to teach everyone to ignore behaviors like that. my mom gives him way too much gentle attention for stuff like that. lately he is refusing all his chewy toys. idk why. the behavior usually starts when he gets overstimulated. which is hard to avoid given all the new houses and people he is meeting. it should settle down soon. i hope. he gets his electric toothbrush twice a day for actual brushing but idk if he would be open to it at other times. I'm overwhelmed with trying to stop everyone from encouraging bad behaviors whether they mean to or not. everyone keeps looking at me like "do something" and i'm not good at standing up to them and taking the criticism.

Quoting mypbandj:

I guess saying ignore it isn't a good description. If he's in peoples faces, I would remove him and start an appropriate activity without bringing a LOT of attention to the licking and spitting. So, something like: no spitting on our friends....let's ride your bike!!! 

If he's getting a lot of attention for it, people telling him to stop, begging for him to stop, threatening him if he doesnt' stop....that could just be motivating him to keep it up. 

Look for the function of the behaivor. Is he looking for attention?? Or maybe he's trying to connect? My 3 year old spits too and sometimes I think he's just trying to play. It's innapproriate so we try to model for him what we want thim to do. I hope that makes sense. 

Would he let you use an electronic toothbrush? I'm just thinking that the function of the behavior might be sensory. You can give him chewy toys to bite on. My son has one that he really likes. We keep it in the car and he chews on it while we go places. 

Quoting EthansMomma2010:

 He won't let me change his diet. It's very simple as it is because he can't stand most foods. Should I ignore it even if it's in people's faces? This is all new to me because we haven't lived near family or even visited since he was 15 months old. :(

Quoting mypbandj:

I wouldn't give it any attention but increase his oral sensory diet with chewy and crunchy foods.

 


 

Yeah, i've been there mom.

Can you pick him up and take him to another room, just the two of you?

 

mariat2
by Maria on Jun. 18, 2013 at 11:00 PM
I caught my ASD child licking his younger brother he has impulsive behavior sometimes or he will pull a girls hair but that us mainly his adhd
EthansMomma2010
by on Jun. 18, 2013 at 11:17 PM
In some situations yes. I will try that. Thanks.

Quoting MomOfOneCoolKid:

 




Quoting EthansMomma2010:


 i do need to teach everyone to ignore behaviors like that. my mom gives him way too much gentle attention for stuff like that. lately he is refusing all his chewy toys. idk why. the behavior usually starts when he gets overstimulated. which is hard to avoid given all the new houses and people he is meeting. it should settle down soon. i hope. he gets his electric toothbrush twice a day for actual brushing but idk if he would be open to it at other times. I'm overwhelmed with trying to stop everyone from encouraging bad behaviors whether they mean to or not. everyone keeps looking at me like "do something" and i'm not good at standing up to them and taking the criticism.


Quoting mypbandj:


I guess saying ignore it isn't a good description. If he's in peoples faces, I would remove him and start an appropriate activity without bringing a LOT of attention to the licking and spitting. So, something like: no spitting on our friends....let's ride your bike!!! 


If he's getting a lot of attention for it, people telling him to stop, begging for him to stop, threatening him if he doesnt' stop....that could just be motivating him to keep it up. 


Look for the function of the behaivor. Is he looking for attention?? Or maybe he's trying to connect? My 3 year old spits too and sometimes I think he's just trying to play. It's innapproriate so we try to model for him what we want thim to do. I hope that makes sense. 


Would he let you use an electronic toothbrush? I'm just thinking that the function of the behavior might be sensory. You can give him chewy toys to bite on. My son has one that he really likes. We keep it in the car and he chews on it while we go places. 


Quoting EthansMomma2010:


 He won't let me change his diet. It's very simple as it is because he can't stand most foods. Should I ignore it even if it's in people's faces? This is all new to me because we haven't lived near family or even visited since he was 15 months old. :(


Quoting mypbandj:

I wouldn't give it any attention but increase his oral sensory diet with chewy and crunchy foods.

 




 


Yeah, i've been there mom.


Can you pick him up and take him to another room, just the two of you?


 

EthansMomma2010
by on Jun. 18, 2013 at 11:18 PM
I'm thankful he has never licked us. But he gets sick a lot from all the other crap he licks.

Quoting mariat2:

I caught my ASD child licking his younger brother he has impulsive behavior sometimes or he will pull a girls hair but that us mainly his adhd
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