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Posted by on Jul. 16, 2013 at 6:47 PM
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I have a son named Joshua who is almost 21 years old and was diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder. Now that he is older, he definately falls under "Asbergers" Autism. He is a high functioning Autistic young man and is very independant. But I get so so worried when he is out taking the bus here and there and he tells me "Mom, Im almost 21 years old now, its MY decision" but mom still worries. Lord help me and please watch over my Joshua, Amen

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by on Jul. 16, 2013 at 6:47 PM
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by on Jul. 16, 2013 at 6:49 PM

Im sorry, I meant to add that Joshua was diagnosed with Autism at the age of 2, when he wasnt talking very clear, his speech was jibberish.

by Platinum Member on Jul. 16, 2013 at 6:51 PM

Sounds like he knows what he is doing. One of the things you could do is have him carry a phone with the GPS on. This way you can locate him if you ever get worried. 

by Carissa on Jul. 16, 2013 at 10:17 PM

Welcome to the group!

by Kari on Jul. 16, 2013 at 10:27 PM

Hard to let go but think of how well he is doing? How great is it that he is being independent? Welcome to the group. You have much wisdom to share I am sure!

by on Jul. 16, 2013 at 11:45 PM

Aspergers no longer a diagnosis under dsm dear

by Jen on Jul. 17, 2013 at 12:56 AM

I have a son with Aspergers too. He's almost 16 and we work really hard to promote his Independence. Sometimes we have to gently push him to do things and I admit my husband is better at pushing than me. I'm more protective. ;)

by Jen on Jul. 17, 2013 at 12:58 AM

Yes, it's true. But that doesn't mean her son is suddenly NOT on the spectrum. It just means that if he went in today for a Dx it would be called Autism Spectrum Disorder instead of Aspergers.

My son was Dx with Aspergers 9 years ago and I continue to define him under Aspergers.

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Aspergers no longer a diagnosis under dsm dear

by Hadley on Jul. 17, 2013 at 2:39 AM
I am sure that you worry about him when he is out, but think of all the times in the past when you were worried about him doing something and he was ok. Sometimes worry means that there is something new and good happening and that you are just not used to it yet. Good luck. I hope the worry starts to lift.
by Darby on Jul. 17, 2013 at 5:34 AM
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Welcome to the group and thanks for sharing:)

by on Jul. 18, 2013 at 8:04 PM

 WOW !!! How can you say Aspergers IS NOT a diagnoses? dear?

Asperger's Syndrome - Symptoms

Although there are many possible symptoms of Asperger?s syndrome, the main symptom is significant trouble with social situations. Your child may have mild to severe symptoms or have a few or many of these symptoms. Because of the wide variety of symptoms, no two children with Asperger's are alike.

Symptoms during childhood

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Parents often first notice the symptoms of Asperger's syndrome when their child starts preschool and begins to interact with other children. Children with Asperger's syndrome may:

  • Not pick up on social cues and may lack inborn social skills, such as being able to read others' body language, start or maintain a conversation, and take turns talking.
  • Dislike any changes in routines.
  • Appear to lack empathy.
  • Be unable to recognize subtle differences in speech tone, pitch, and accent that alter the meaning of others? speech. So your child may not understand a joke or may take a sarcastic comment literally. And his or her speech may be flat and hard to understand because it lacks tone, pitch, and accent.
  • Have a formal style of speaking that is advanced for his or her age. For example, the child may use the word "beckon" instead of "call" or the word "return" instead of "come back."
  • Avoid eye contact or stare at others.
  • Have unusual facial expressions or postures.
  • Be preoccupied with only one or few interests, which he or she may be very knowledgeable about. Many children with Asperger's syndrome are overly interested in parts of a whole or in unusual activities, such as designing houses, drawing highly detailed scenes, or studying astronomy. They may show an unusual interest in certain topics such as snakes, names of stars, or dinosaurs.
  • Talk a lot, usually about a favorite subject. One-sided conversations are common. Internal thoughts are often verbalized.
  • Have delayed motor development. Your child may be late in learning to use a fork or spoon, ride a bike, or catch a ball. He or she may have an awkward walk. Handwriting is often poor.
  • Have heightened sensitivity and become overstimulated by loud noises, lights, or strong tastes or textures. For more information about these symptoms, see sensory processing disorder.

A child with one or two of these symptoms does not necessarily have Asperger?s syndrome. To be diagnosed with Asperger?s syndrome, a child must have a combination of these symptoms and significant trouble with social situations.

Although the condition is in some ways similar to autism, a child with Asperger's syndrome typically has normal language and intellectual development. Also, those with Asperger's syndrome typically make more of an effort than those with autism to make friends and engage in activities with others.

Symptoms during adolescent and teen years

Most symptoms persist through the teen years. And although teens with Asperger's can begin to learn those social skills they lack, communication often remains difficult. They will probably continue to have difficulty "reading" others' behavior.

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