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Posted by on Jul. 25, 2013 at 10:15 AM
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My son is almost ten years old and he has major aggression issues. From threatening to throwing and breaking things to attacking me and my parents. I have gone to see every dr I can think of, blood work done (everything came back normal except his thyroid- but apparently at his age thats normal), adjusting and changing meds, changing his diet etc. I am a single mother and I am in crisis mode right now. Can anyone tell me if there are any additional testing I can get done or what specialists I can take him to. I have no idea what to do anymore.

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by Member on Jul. 25, 2013 at 10:19 AM

counseling and a psychiatrist, get evals done

by Bronze Member on Jul. 25, 2013 at 10:29 AM

Can you share what services he has received or is currently receiving?  What were the recommendations and outcomes from prior doctors and school?  

A good child psychiatrist could be very helpful for your son and your family.

by on Jul. 25, 2013 at 10:37 AM

My son receives OT, PT, Speech, Individual and Group counseling, Vision therapy and even an extra gym teacher to help show him how to play sports...this is all in school. Outside of school he has a behavioral specialist come to the house one time a week, he sees a counselor and a psychiatrist. They havent given me much to go on so far except for meds. The psychiatrist is extremely hard to get ahold of because he only works one day a week. Always playing phone tag with his pediatrician. I even scheduled an appt with an allergist to get him tested for all food and environmental allergies. But that isnt until September. I just know something else is going on and I dont know who to call or what tests may need to be done. Beleive me I am doing everything I can to try to get him help but nothing has worked. It has taken a toll on me and I am stressed to the max and dont even know how to relax anymore. I am on a waiting list for more hours of respite care...right now I am only getting 2 hrs a week.

by Member on Jul. 25, 2013 at 11:11 AM
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Must be so frustrating, I don't have much advice as my journey is just beginning but I know how bad BAD days can be.  Hang in there,  I pray alot! Hugs

by Bronze Member on Jul. 25, 2013 at 4:00 PM
Respite is great and soooo needed. Does your area offer wrap around services? It is helpful & puts all your sons "team" together to brainstorm and hold all members accountable. Your county mental health board or united way may have more info. Hang in there mom. You are working so hard for a great reason.
by Bronze Member on Jul. 25, 2013 at 4:09 PM

Does he play video games or watch tv?

by Member on Jul. 25, 2013 at 4:15 PM
my kids get ot,pt,speech,mt and tss....the pt said push ups and crab walks help when they get to were they r stressing out and starting to meltdown..
by Gold Member on Jul. 25, 2013 at 5:42 PM

That is not normal behavier.  My son did that at age 3 and was diagnosed with mild Autism soon after.  See a child psychologist to diagnose.  Learn from his therapist how to disapline him.  He needs to learn to communicate his feelings of anger and sadness which can be taught by the parents.  "We do not hit we use our words."  Ask the child to repeat "Im angry".  You repeatedly have to teach this and he will learn by voice, sign, Eye pad within a year.  My son was taught at age 3 and within a year he started using words.

by on Jul. 25, 2013 at 10:19 PM
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Why is he doing this? I know that sounds like a really smart alec question. But I am asking you because I want you to think about the cause of the behavior, root cause is important, we can't come up with a solution without knowing what we are working with, KWIM?

Sometimes all that is needed is the demands be lessened, the environment changed, and the child's triggers watched for... No medication or therapy can fix those things. It's trial and error

I have autism, my environment is extremely important for my success. My son is also on the spectrum, the same goes for him

10 is a tough age... it really is. I wish I knew more about your situation so I could give advice. I'm afraid to give any advice under assumptions

by Hadley on Jul. 25, 2013 at 10:34 PM

Are you happy with the team if professionals working with him? One really good therapist can make a huge difference. If you aren't able to get ahold of your "team players" you might want to consider changing them if you can. It doesn't sound like they are helping solve problems. Maybe a fresh eye could help uncover what he needs better. If you have 1 really good therapist ask them to recommend someone. The good ones tend to stick together. Good luck! 

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