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Severely impaired? Really...?

Posted by on Jul. 27, 2013 at 7:06 PM
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I came across a sealed packet today written by my son's second grade teacher and meant to be sent along to a diagnostic appointment that I cancelled after I heard that this particular place was not recommended. Anyway, I opened it and his teacher checked the box at the end that said- severely impaired. I was shocked. I know he has obstacles but no one has ever used that kind of terminology with me. I don't think of him that way at all. He can do anything he sets his mind to, it may take him a bit longer than the average kid but he is smart and interested and creative. I hate to think that he spent a whole year with someone who thought of him like that. This year his teacher was wonderful and all about what he could do pushing him far beyond what we thought was possible the year before...makes me realize how much the teacher matters. The whole thing makes my stomach hurt wondering who he will have next year...

by on Jul. 27, 2013 at 7:06 PM
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wildchild.com
by Janine on Jul. 27, 2013 at 7:34 PM
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Hugs mama...forget about what that teacher wrote. You know that's not true & that's all that really matters. As for.next year just keep your eyes & ears opened to make sure your sons next teacher is as good as the one he has now.
jeda1429
by Member on Jul. 27, 2013 at 8:09 PM

I can so relate. My son had a teacher who wrote only negative things in his evaluation. He is in the top three percent of his class academically, and I was just super irritated by it. Our kids rise to the standards they are held to. If a teacher has a super negative view of my child I would prefer he be moved to a different class. i always get sick to my stomache before a new school year.

Charizma77
by Carissa on Jul. 27, 2013 at 8:56 PM

That's tough. I would be crying..its so hard to read things like that. Maybe she knew it would help him get more assistance or something?  Or maybe her idea of severely impaired isnt as bad as it sounds..  I don't know. Hugs!

lucasmadre
by Kari on Jul. 27, 2013 at 9:05 PM
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I was thinking that she might try to be getting him services but even so who would misrepresent a child? Thanks for the support...

Quoting Charizma77:

That's tough. I would be crying..its so hard to read things like that. Maybe she knew it would help him get more assistance or something?  Or maybe her idea of severely impaired isnt as bad as it sounds..  I don't know. Hugs!


lucasmadre
by Kari on Jul. 27, 2013 at 9:09 PM

I always get sick to my stomach before school starts too. I thought that was only suppose to happen to the kids :) thanks for your support. It always helps to know you aren't alone.  

Quoting jeda1429:

I can so relate. My son had a teacher who wrote only negative things in his evaluation. He is in the top three percent of his class academically, and I was just super irritated by it. Our kids rise to the standards they are held to. If a teacher has a super negative view of my child I would prefer he be moved to a different class. i always get sick to my stomache before a new school year.


HippoCat
by Hadley on Jul. 27, 2013 at 9:13 PM
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I'm sorry. It's heartbreaking to get someone's opinion of your child sometimes. You know him the best and believe in yourself and your son. This teacher was missing out on an opportunity to learn about your son and help him reach new goals.
mypbandj
by Jen on Jul. 28, 2013 at 12:26 AM
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I had one teacher for my son once who made him out to look like the model student. She claimed he was no trouble and just perfect. 

Next think I knew, I was fighting the school district to not take away his IEP!! 

I would rather a teacher say my child was severly impared than not - why??? because I want my kid to get services! As many as possible!! 

My youngest son was just evaluated and his speech eval came back saying his speech was severely delayed. That really surprised me because I don't know that I agree. But guess what? I'm not fighting it. They want to call it severely delayed. Fine with me. And give him all the services that go along with it. :D

Also, take it as a learning experience. If you are worried that the teacher is dumbing down his work because maybe she see's him as less capable as you see him, then get involved in what is happening in the class. Don't take for granted that the teacher is doing everything the way you would have her do it. Get in there and ask...how is his work compared to his peers? Are you giving him the same work? The same amount? 


kay1214
by on Jul. 28, 2013 at 1:40 AM
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Everyone has opinions on what "severe" means. Don't worry about one teacher's opinion. She's a professional teacher, not a behavioral specialist.

KatyTylersMom
by Silver Member on Jul. 28, 2013 at 4:13 AM
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So my son is 3 and functions around the 19 month level in terms of his verbal skills, comprehension, and ability to care for himself.  I realize that if someone were to describe him they'd probably say that he is severely impaired because to be functioning at half your chronological age is, well, pretty severe and definitely worthy of note. 

But at the same time WE know that at 2 years old he was functioning at the 8 month old level so he's progressed a year in a years time and while he's still very behind, I don't see him as impaired, I just see him as having lost a large part of his first two years.  But now that we've got him in various therapies and more importantly, on a diet and medical interevention track that has him getting healthy and removing all the crap that's been gumming up his system, he's no longer "impaired" - he's learning at the rate of a normal child.  Now he may never catch up to his same age peers (or at least not until teenage/young-adult hood when everyone becomes a freaking idiot for a few years) but I'm looking at my child as "delayed" rather than "impaired".  And it's ok to be late sometimes.  Tyler is definitely worth waiting for:)

darbyakeep45
by Darby on Jul. 28, 2013 at 7:32 AM

Hugs mama!  I know that was probably difficult to read.  Teachers make a HUGE difference with our kids!

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