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Help! How do I discipline my aggressive

Posted by on Jul. 28, 2013 at 8:34 PM
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My son is 5 and completely nonverbal. At our family reunion camp out my son was violent to all the younger kids and babies too. He hates crying. He'll seek out the centers and pull their hair, pinch and scratch them. Sometimes out of the blue he'll do these behaviors randomly. I put him in time outs but they don't make a difference. I don't know how to get him to understand that these behaviors are not acceptable and to see these behaviors decrease. What do I do?
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mypbandj
by Jen on Jul. 28, 2013 at 8:51 PM
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I think you need to be right with him, watching carefully, and stopping him before he can do it. And right at that moment, either show him a pictures that means 'no hurting' (if you do PECS), and then redirect him.

What does the school to address that behavior because you probably want to be doing something similar.

mypbandj
by Jen on Jul. 28, 2013 at 8:55 PM

Also, try and figure out the reason for the behavior. Is it the noise that is driving him crazy? Then try some headphones. Is he trying to get attention? Finding the reason, will help you find the solution.

Does he do ABA? They will teach you ways to reinforce behavior that you want to see more of.

Bobsie
by Bronze Member on Jul. 28, 2013 at 8:59 PM
It usually was hearing crying or hearing someone say something he doesn't want to hear.
Charizma77
by Carissa on Jul. 28, 2013 at 10:00 PM

I'm honestly not sure. I would talk to a behavioral therapist or a professional. I'm afraid I would just give you bad advice. I understand what you are going through though and how frustrating it is hugs!

Bobsie
by Bronze Member on Jul. 28, 2013 at 11:45 PM
It is so frustrating. I've cried a lot over last 2 days because of this.Many family members think I should spank him but I don't know if that would help.
mypbandj
by Jen on Jul. 29, 2013 at 12:08 AM

I don't think spanking him would help to be honest. It might actually make it worse!!

Quoting Bobsie:

It is so frustrating. I've cried a lot over last 2 days because of this.Many family members think I should spank him but I don't know if that would help.


Trabrooke
by on Jul. 29, 2013 at 5:12 AM

My daughter gets very agressive with noise or if people get in her personal space  how we cope with this  is we make her look at our face then we say gentle and stroke her hand  this seems to work   Hope this helps 

Macphee
by Bronze Member on Jul. 29, 2013 at 12:44 PM
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This does improve. I would do this with my son repeatedly. He would try to grab my arm to get my attention and scratch or pinch, we'd tell him gentle. When he does it, big high fives. Your kid is nonverball, it sounds like he is trying to play, but he has to be taught how. Talk to an out about a sensory diet, this will relieve his emotions some. It will also teach him positive forms of touch. Ask about weinberger protocol. Also, of you have access to any animal for your kid, that might help. Our pit has helped my son so much in terms of tactile sensory, calming him down, and all around friendship. Hugs.

P.s. sometimes with improved communication comes less aggression/frustration


Quoting Trabrooke:

My daughter gets very agressive with noise or if people get in her personal space  how we cope with this  is we make her look at our face then we say gentle and stroke her hand  this seems to work   Hope this helps 


Bobsie
by Bronze Member on Jul. 29, 2013 at 2:01 PM
Thanks I will try this and talk to his aba behavioral specialist about it.
cupienoel
by New Member on Jul. 29, 2013 at 9:41 PM

my son is six and the last year started doing the same thing.  nothing else has worked, so we chose to tell him that its not ok in the same way every time and redirect him to something else.  its working, he as improved leaps and bounds.  Hang in there.  it gets better

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