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Posted by on Aug. 4, 2013 at 3:17 AM
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me and my husband recently went to the doctors the doctor told us that our 4 year old has autism signs and they need to run some tests she can't carry on a conversation yet and is to be evaluated for speech delay
by on Aug. 4, 2013 at 3:17 AM
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by Emma on Aug. 4, 2013 at 3:39 AM
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First, Take a deep breath.

Second, welcome to the group. I've got classic autism. I'm married with two children. Being autistic generally isn't the worst diagnoses in the world. Before you panic, figure out the severity, and what your options are.

I can't carry on a conversation very well face to face as an adult, but writing has opened up my ability to have a conversation in a way that speech won't ever be able to do for me. So, even if she can't talk perfectly, there are other options besides talking abck and forth perfectly available too.

There are therapies, social groups, diets, vitamins, exercises, play therapy, animal therapy, speech and occupational therapy, ABA, and many, many more things to try.

The key here is... she's still that same little girl you love. She might struggle with things that come naturally to other children, such as talking back and forth, or motor skills, or needing help to elarn how to organize or come up with ways to handle stress better, etc.

But you know what? Those can be learned over time. Being autistic is how our brain is wired, we are quirky, and many of us have unique perspectives on the world, and have a tedency to be overly trusting and see the world with rose colored goggles... and it's hard to go out into a world where they get ripped off constantly by society, and harsh people.... it's hard to be judged for being different.

But, as a mom of a special needs child myself, I also understand how scary it can be when you don't know what their future might hold, or what it means, or not having concrete answers and just a "wait and see what happens" attitude as they grow up.

Whatever you need as mom dealing with this - don't forget to lean on family, friends.... take time for yourself if you need it.

This group is a great starting place.... AND... last but not least, many kids can be speech delayed for reasons other than autism... but if she is autistic... she's still the same little girl you love.

by on Aug. 4, 2013 at 6:14 AM

 It may possibly only be a speech delay! But if it is found that she's autistic, take a deep breath and relax. A diagnosis helps so much as far as her getting the right treatment and education plan!

by Darby on Aug. 4, 2013 at 8:01 AM

Welcome to the group!  She's beautiful mama:)

by Silver Member on Aug. 4, 2013 at 3:49 PM
Welcome to the group. Diagnosis and services help any child cope with this crazy world. Most parents don't want their kids to be "different," but she's still your little girl.
What are some of her quirks that you love?
My son was diagnosed three years ago, he is brilliant with numbers, animals, and dinosaurs. He is also extremely intuitive about people's emotions. He did have speech and motor delays, but he's catching on. When diagnosed at 3, he was socially, speech and motor level at 18 month old. At 6, he is now at the level of a 4 1/2 yr old. He is catching on quickly.
by Platinum Member on Aug. 4, 2013 at 4:29 PM

First off she is beautiful. Even seeing signs doesn't mean she has it. If she does its not the end of the world. She will still be the same little girl she has always been. She will still be able to do all the stuff other children do. She will just learn to do them at her pace and way. Welcome to the group. If you have questions ask away. 

by Carissa on Aug. 4, 2013 at 8:50 PM

Wat a beautiful little girl. I was scared too when Ashton was dx 5 years ago. It is very overwhelming at first but take a deep breath and just take it one day at a time. This is a great group, ask many questions in here and if you just need to vent we are here for ya. Hugs!

by Dawn on Aug. 5, 2013 at 12:33 PM

Welcome to the group! It is good that she was recognized early with her disability. There is help out there for her. I recommend getting her evaluated for Special Education services ( if she is not signed up for them already. I recommend these places for more information:,,,, and


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by on Aug. 5, 2013 at 4:58 PM

My son has autism, a speech delay, and apraxia. He did not speak until he was 4 years old. Now at 5 1/2 he is starting to make great sentences. His reciprocity in conversations is still lacking but we're working on that. His intelligibility can still be low at times but that just means he needs practice, practice, practice so we are trying to get as much speech therapy for him as possible.  With help from therapies and school, he has made great strides--so hang in there.

by Jen on Aug. 5, 2013 at 8:49 PM

Glad you are getting her evaluated.

by on Aug. 5, 2013 at 9:10 PM

Welcome! I have a son with autism- super sweet and super quirky, but I love him for it. The best advice we were given was to start ABA ( applied behavioral analysis)- as soon as possible -it is working wonders for my son.

Be strong. And know you are not alone.:)

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