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Autism - Support Across the Spectrum Autism - Support Across the Spectrum

Stressed preschool teacher

Posted by on Aug. 22, 2013 at 4:41 PM
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I'm a mother of a autistic child. I've been having problems at work for taking too many days off here and there for fevers, meltdowns, pediatric appointments, evaluations, touring special schools. I'm also a cancer survivor who has to go through routine testing. My job is forcing me to give a letter of resignation. Due to the fact I received a $200 paycut and a increase of $200 in my tuition it's been hard to make ends meet. I'm stressed and depressed. I owe 2 months in tuition. I'm a month behind in rent, and owe electricity. I'm so depressed. If I quit my job and decide to take my son out of daycare and care for him at home are there any services that can help financially. I did apply for Disibility for my child and they said he was legible. My son had a severe meltdown. They asked me is this how he is at home. I told them yes as well as in daycare. They asked how many hours? From 8 to 6 pm. They said that was too many hours for him. That I should consider getting a part time. I think any job will give me a problem. You see I have no family living close by. It's just me and my boys. Dad works 6 days and he does help as much as he can. Please let me know of any programs I can apply for.

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by on Aug. 22, 2013 at 4:41 PM
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Blueluvr
by on Aug. 22, 2013 at 6:29 PM

 Well i know exactly how you feel. I have 2 children with ASD.. meltdowns arent too many but the doc appts and ABA services are an everyday thing. It's very hard. I had a social worker tell me.. it's kinda impossible for some families to have both parents working. Thats why there's services and also disability to help you. My kids are FINALLY starting school this yr and I'm so excited bc MAYBE, jst MAYBE i might be able to start working. But I guess that jst depends on if my kids can make it thru school. I have my fingers crossed. Jst stay strong and keep faith. It'll pull through

MomOfOneCoolKid
by Gold Member on Aug. 22, 2013 at 7:07 PM

How old is your son? Does he receive any services right now? Does he have a dx? Look at respite care as well.

MotoStar
by Member on Aug. 22, 2013 at 7:20 PM

Look into state funding.

I know that some states provide Medical Assistance and will also provide PCA hours or respite care through your county.

It really sounds like you could benefit from either a PCA or respite care, just to give yourself a break and put your mind at ease.

TheJerseyGirl
by Michele on Aug. 22, 2013 at 8:32 PM

 I wish I knew of any programs available around you...but all I know of for sure are state programs...have you checked into those?

elkmomma
by Member on Aug. 22, 2013 at 8:53 PM

Call an Atty. for SSDI.  You always get turned down the first time (almost always).  Having a lawyer do all the paper stuff is so much easier when applying and don't stop until you get it either.  File for PA too, even if you only get it for a short time.  Some utility companies will work with you or can point you to help for those bills.  Some churches are willing to help with rent & food. 

wildchild.com
by Janine on Aug. 22, 2013 at 9:01 PM
Im sorry your having a tough time. Have you looked into ssi...my son receives it & helps us out alot.
StoneColdKiller
by Member on Aug. 23, 2013 at 1:57 AM

 I know a couple of single moms that cant work due to children with ASD, they find ways like full time student and state help. They also do this hoping that college will give them a better job to work around their child/ren needs. It will be hard but its doable.

emarin77
by Silver Member on Aug. 23, 2013 at 11:29 AM

How old is your son?  Is he 3?  Have him placed in ESE preschool.  Just contact your local district, ESE Specialist.  Have county respite (trained individuals) care for him or other baby sitter that has experience caring kids with Autism; care.com.

Jenibob
by Bronze Member on Aug. 23, 2013 at 11:36 AM
Try your local board of mental health & dev. Disabilities. Also inquire from your local united way to find out which agencies can assist. Hang in there...
jaydensmom1726
by Bronze Member on Aug. 23, 2013 at 11:56 AM

we didnt we actually got aprroved for him in just about a month. now we are doing the finacial stuff so they know how much we make what our 2 cars are worth
Quoting elkmomma:

Call an Atty. for SSDI.  You always get turned down the first time (almost always).  Having a lawyer do all the paper stuff is so much easier when applying and don't stop until you get it either.  File for PA too, even if you only get it for a short time.  Some utility companies will work with you or can point you to help for those bills.  Some churches are willing to help with rent & food. 


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