Mixed feelings about dd's behavior...
Ok so my dd, 11 years old, has always been very aggressive. She is known for hitting, biting, kicking, scratching, drawing blood, literally attacking any adult (no kids ever) that is in her line of sight and tells her no. Its also been her way to deal and cope with stress and anxiety.
She's had her meds changed and over the summer we went from every day and every week to once a month. She wasn't wetting the bed hardly anymore, she was sleeping with her light off finally with no other issues.
Since school started though, she's had four out bursts. But within the last week or two she hasn't and instead the following has happened.
She wets the bed more often.
She can't sleep, she says there is something watching her.
She sleeps with the light on AGAIN
She's stims way more then I've ever seen her (she used to do it, but it was rare it wasn't a normal occurance in our day, whereas now it's off and on all day)
She's started chewing on things more (same as above, she would chew or mouth things, but rare, now its all day and it drives me batty cause I can hear her doing it!)
She's not playing with her friends as much and this was a child we couldn't keep in the house, now I have to kick her out to play.
She talks with her imaginary friends more (she is 11 years old, but she has the menatality of a 4/5 year old)
She has become way more clingy to me as well. I can't leave with out her or she gets upset and flips out on me.
While I'm grateful that the aggression at this point has stopped (she still head bangs thing if it gets to bad), I've noticed these other behaviors have increased or showed up out of the blue. I've mentioned it to her therapist and I've mentioned it to her Psychatrist. Both have said at this point there is nothing to worry about and it sounds like anxiety and that since she isn't attacking me anymore at this point (keeping in mind we're not out of the woods yet on that end), she is now trying to cope in other ways.
There is no concern of anything else being wrong, except that her anxiety about school has elevated and that this is something she will work through in time. However the not playing with friends much anymore, is a bit concerning for both, but given everything else they want to chalk it up to the anxiety part, at least for now.
But it drives me batty really. I'm not used to her acting this way and now I have to change and cope and remind myself not to get on her case about it. I do ask her to stop when it wears on me and typically I can let things go and ignore it, but with it all changing at once its, its sending me over the edge and over stimulating me (I have ADD). I'm trying to deal with it all one step at a time and I try to remind myself that its just her new ways of coping and to be patient with her. But it's also concerning me too.
I'm glad she hasn't acted out towards me, its nice not to get beat up all the time, but its frustrating too.
I guess I just needed to get that off my chest...then again I dunno. I just know that I needed to post this in here...that there would be other moms in there who would understand. Thanks for listening.