My name is Tricia. I have 3 grandsons, the oldest was diagnosed with autism when he was 3, his name is Travis and he is now 6 and in first grade. I take care of Travis and my second grandson Tuesday through Thursday. Yesterday was a very hard day for me. Travis has always been a loving little boy for the most part. Since he has started 1st grade this has started to change. Last year he had an autism support teacher that was the best. She could get him to do anything. She was patient and loving and was very respectful with him. The school principal did not like her so she was transfered out and a regular special ed teacher (who specializes in behavior problems was put in her place) The aid who is with him during his regular ed class is not trained in anything and has no autism experience at all. They seem to try to bully him into doing what they want him to do. Now back to yesterday. I was trying to get him to do his homework and he told me that he hated me, wanted me to die and that he wanted to kill me. He has never said anything like that to me at all. I was devistated. I realize that he is under stress at school. That leads me to the next frustrating part. We are trying to get him into another school that has an au specialist. I have called and e-mailed the autism director in our school district asking for a meeting with her. She will not respond to me. I have looked for a support group in my area. There are none. With so many children being diagnosed with asd why is it so hard to get help and support. I would think that there would be a support group in every city. I just dont understand. And I just really dont know what to do.