Am I handling him the right way? Second guessing...
I wanted to say that I have enjoyed reading everyone's different posts on here.
I just feel like I have been attacked by a couple different people today. I am wondering if I am handling him OK. My 13 year old niece asked me if I thought that most of his yelling is being exaggerated. She thinks that he was listening to us talking about the diagnosis and he now realizes that something is going on. So, he is over reacting. I do think around that time I changed the way I handle things. I do yell when the kids do things they aren't supposed to. But I have been trying to use my words and help for Nicolas to see what he is doing wrong instead of yelling and putting him in a time out that is awful. It is horrible keeping him there. I don't know if her opinion is valid, or if the way I am handling things is what has changed his behavior a little.
Then Nicolas wanted to watch RIO again for the 3rd time. I told him that I was gonna put on a halloween show. He started to flip out. So, I let him have his meltdown. I have been trying to let him yell it out unless he starts to hurt his self or me. Well, he saw that and then started to hit me and the TV. So, I held him tight and after about 5 minutes he did calm down. We tried again and I told him that he can watch the movie after we watch the one I picked if he listened. (I didn't want to give in when he was having a meltdown. I don't want him to think that if he yells and screams that I'm gonna give in.) He started all over again. The behaviors got worse though. He started punching me in the leg, and then punching the TV. The next move was to go to his room and shut the door. That is always the last place. He flipped out for another 10 minutes hitting the door and yelling. He finally started to calm down, so I took that chance to help him calm more. I went in and rocked him while hugging him. He asked for the movie and I started telling him about spookley the pumpkin. That the other pumpkins make fun of him, and how that's not nice. It got his attention and he finally was able to sit down and watch my movie. (he did get RIO again after he got a bath. He asked nicely when Spookley was over and I agreed if he got a bath nicely)
My mother thinks that I should have given him what he wanted and can't believe that all that was over a movie. I guess I am starting to second guess how I handle him. What does everyone else think? OH, if it makes a difference. He will be 4 next month, and he has high functioning, moderate ASD.