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Finally getting somewhere....(ETA in red)

Posted by on Nov. 2, 2013 at 8:48 AM
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I made a post awhile back about having behavioral issues with my 11 year old son that are causing him to fail at school.  He's disrespectful and defiant to his teachers, nitpicking at anything he can.  He deflects blame, has poor coping skills, and has developed an issue with talking back.  He is in a new school (from elementary to the middle school, which is a big change).  I had made an appointment with his pediatrician to discuss what options were available, because I just didn't know what to do, and he pretty much brushed me off, saying that I know more about the resources in the area than he does.  It was such a waste of an appointment.

ETA:  My son is currently under a 504 accomodation plan, but after parent/teacher conference, I requested a meeting to discuss the appropriateness of him going back under an IEP.  I also got a call back from the Autism Center in a nearby town.  He's going to start a once a week social skills program (focuses around group activities) in January, and while he's in that, he will be observed by their behavioral specialists, and will eventually receive one on one counseling.  

It's such a relief to have a direction to go to.  I was at such a loss because he did so well last school year, and even made honor roll.  To go from that to all this attitude and failing grades was really getting to me.  I feel like a huge weight has been taken off of my shoulders.

I finally got the call from the school, and have a meeting on Thursday to discuss him going back under an IEP.  I also contacted the local ARC program (Autism Resource Center), to see about him going to their Extended Day program.  I think he needs something more intensive than just a once a week social skills program.  The problem is that they don't take health insurance, so I need to get the school to pay for it, which I can't do until he's under an IEP.

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wildchild.com
by Janine on Nov. 2, 2013 at 9:24 AM
That's great news mama!
Jodee24
by Member on Nov. 2, 2013 at 9:29 AM
Good luck momma! Keep us posted!
LadyReal
by on Nov. 2, 2013 at 9:37 AM

Wow...great news

lhiannan
by Member on Nov. 2, 2013 at 11:09 AM
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Thank you, everyone :)  It's been a difficult school year so far, and getting the school to follow through and schedule the meeting has been difficult.  First, no one got back to me, then the person who had to schedule the meeting was out for a week due to a death in the family, then she came back and still no call, so I asked at the office, then had to talk to the guidance counselor, and I finally got a call this week.  The problem is that the school didn't change my primary number to my cell phone (which I had supposedly taken care of in person, and they still apparently didn't change it), so she had left a couple of messages on my house phone.  Now, we don't use our house phone, it's pretty much there for emergencies, and only telemarketers ever really call it, so I only go through the voice mail once a week.  Since I had told the office IN PERSON to change the primary contact to my cell phone, I mistakenly assumed it was taken care of.  But, I called and left a message for her to reach me via my cell, so hopefully I'll get a call on Monday.

Linda733
by on Nov. 3, 2013 at 5:52 PM

That's awesome news. Good for you :-) 

darbyakeep45
by Darby on Nov. 3, 2013 at 6:20 PM

Hope you get a call on Monday mama...hugs!

EthansMomma2010
by Bronze Member on Nov. 3, 2013 at 8:20 PM
Awesome!! I know what you mean about just needing a direction and bit of a game plan! Hope you get the call and get it all worked out soon!!
TheJerseyGirl
by Michele on Nov. 4, 2013 at 6:18 AM

 That's great news! I'm happy things are getting better!

lucasmadre
by Kari on Nov. 4, 2013 at 9:25 AM

I hadn't seen your previous post but I am glad I saw this one. I have a nine year old and we are facing a lot of the same issues as you are with your son. They made too many changes in his school curriculum this year and it is back firing. Have an IEP this morning so will see if I get anywhere.

I want to thank you for the idea of finding outside resources to help him with the social issues at hand. I always go through the school and maybe it is time to look at outside.

Glad to know you are feeling a little better and like help is on the way. The not knowing what to do is sometimes the hardest part...XO 

lhiannan
by Member on Nov. 4, 2013 at 9:45 AM

If you do find an outside source, I highly recommend one that is autism-specific.  I sent him to a partial hospital program after school to address some other issues (I wanted socialization, since he has the typical autistic trait of talking about whatever he's focused on instead of whatever topic is being discussed, and he had serious personal boundary issues, even with complete strangers).  The program his health insurance would cover was more for kids with emotional issues (most of the kids had dcf involvement), and I will never send my son there again.  Autistic behavior has a different source than behavior issues in emotionally troubled kids, and the people at this particular program were not trained for that.  

My son is going to be doing a social skills program once a week starting in January with the autism center through United Services, but once he gets back on an IEP, I'm going to push for the school to send him to the ARC program (Autism Resource Center).  They have an after school program that I feel would be very beneficial for him, but they don't take health insurance.  I just think he needs something more intensive than once a week.  

Quoting lucasmadre:

I hadn't seen your previous post but I am glad I saw this one. I have a nine year old and we are facing a lot of the same issues as you are with your son. They made too many changes in his school curriculum this year and it is back firing. Have an IEP this morning so will see if I get anywhere.

I want to thank you for the idea of finding outside resources to help him with the social issues at hand. I always go through the school and maybe it is time to look at outside.

Glad to know you are feeling a little better and like help is on the way. The not knowing what to do is sometimes the hardest part...XO 


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