Hard day at school, yesterday.
I made a post a couple of days ago saying that I was worried about Nicolas' first day back to the private preschool. It was mainly because the other kids have gotten used to the schedule and it is like Nicolas is starting all over again. Transitions is one of the hardest thing for him.
Well, when I picked him up yesterday, the teacher said that they had to give him the snack that I sent him because he had a meltdown about the snack they provided. (With his feeding issues, before the clinic, the plan was to give him their food and if he said no, then just give him what I send in his bookbag.) That is an easy fix. I just told her to give him the snack that I provide because he doesn't need that extra stress in school. You could tell that she didn't like it. Then she said that he had a couple other meltdowns because of the schedule. That he doesn't know it and that is why she thinks it is happening. My thought was DUH! I think that was a lot of meltdowns though for 2 1/2 hrs.
So, I start to talk to her a little bit about the IEP draft that I got. That they are going to be making sure he has several opportunities to move. Oh, then she tells me that Nicolas was constantly going potty. I told her that is his escape. He does that when he needs to get away because no one is gonna tell him that he can't go potty. (and if you do, you better be ready for another meltdown!) She totally ignores me and says, well we don't make them sit too long anyway, so that's not an issue. I just ignore it, and mention that they are gonna use visuals with Nicolas for transitions, and I think that will help him alot. That he has to know what is expected and when he needs to move on. She again shoved it off and said that they brought out the pictures a little today. I even offered to make a chart up myself if she gives me the different activities in the classroom.
Then she goes on to say that child find usually comes in the classroom with autistic children and they will be fine. I then go on to tell her that he was accepted into the special ed intervention classroom 3 times a week. That I still want him to go there and I don't know if they do that when they get accepted into the special ed classroom.
In the end, I felt like I was being brushed off! I came home and e-mailed her and told her that I want to have a meeting and reminded her that the IEP meeting will be on Monday. She said that we can meet in the classroom for a few minutes after class on Tue. Once I have done the IEP, and says that the teacher comes to her class for another student and wants them to come for Nicolas too. I made a phone call today and the person going to the meeting with me said that is a separate program. That isn't gonna happen. But we have the option of his teacher of the program could meet with the teacher on a friday after she gets to know Nicolas and give them some advice on what works for them. I just don't know.
I feel like the teacher at the private preschool doesn't want to do anything extra. I know that she has 17 other children. It won't take much effort to bring attention to a visual chart for Nicolas and give him a couple time reminders as they are going through an activity. I don't know where this is gonna take me...
This ended up being longer than I thought. Sry.