Do you find you're more patient with other kids?
Having Sam be so..... challenging... I find that I am really able to be more compassionate and understanding of other kids as well.
Its like a light went off in my head that we ALL have some troubles.. and if we are "pushing back" then something is wrong. We all push back, or get snippy, or ask for accomodations... we all ask for help, assistance, for someone to listen and recognise that "something" is wrong when we are NOT acting like ourselves.
We were at the library and he was a little pushy, shovey at the train table.. A little bossy with who was going to get what train.. and a little difficult... He yelled at Sam for something meaningless and Sam just walked away...
My friends were a bit surprised that I didnt get angry at the kid who was giving my son a hard time yesterday. They were suprised that I defended him, or was supportive vs. their judgemental....The kid was JUST snippy and snotty and bossy... and I said to myself "wow, I wonder what his issue is". (Not meaning spectrum-y issue)... I wonder why he is having a hard time...cause you could tell by the way he was acting, SOMETHING there was hard.. there was something keeping him from giving up the control.
My friends thought he was just bratty, but I cant and DONT look at it like that anymore.. cause Sam can come across bratty (and bossy, and snippy and snotty.. but WE ALL CAN....) and I know HE isnt..unless there is a bigger issue..
So, do you find you are more or less tolerant with those around you?
I want to confess, if Sam is having a REALLY hard day, I find my tolerance less... (hey, when we are stressed, we are NOT at our best!)