vent/question about people who don't understand
I have 2 son's different dads Bradly is 5 years old and Terrin is 9 months old. My 5 year old has Moderate autims and SPD and is pretty much still non verbal. My brother and Terrin's aunt are dating and here is the problem. There have been a few times where in a fit Bradly has hurt Terrin nothing serious he made him bleed once when he scratched him. Bradly also tends to push baby who is crawling over when he gets to close and Bradly wants his space.
The problem is she bad mouths how I handle Bradly's tantrums and fits. She thinks I should be spanking Bradly more and physically addressing his behavior. Usually if Bradly is in a fit but not hurting anyone I address his emotions i say "oh your angry and thats okay you can be angry because this happened." Bradly usually calms down alot once i recognize his emotions and is getting better. She just rolls her eyes at me and says that is just silly. Recently he has gotten where if he's mad he throws his ipod or whatever at me and she thinks I should be harsher with him when he does things like that. It would be different if he threw it at her but he's not.
I know i should just ignore her becasue she has no kids and is a young immature thing but, it just pisses me off. She has no clue or education about autism or how it works I really just want to smack her with some of my autism books a few times I doubt that will help but it would make me feel better.
I just don't know how to inform her on why I do things with Bradly without it turning into a huge argument that would put my brother in an odd place.