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Can they just be anti-social with speech delay or does that equate autism?

Posted by on Dec. 6, 2013 at 2:15 AM
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I am sorry, but I am still researching autism spectrum disorder and my child.  Her daddy and I are fairly anti-social such that I prefer to be alone or work alone and also like to have schedules and routine and have my own issues with getting anxious in new environments and with new people.  Couldnt those traits be more genetic than autism???

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darbyakeep45
by Darby on Dec. 6, 2013 at 6:12 AM

The Autism spectrum is so wide...as wide as our country to be honest!  I would have your child evaluated by a developmental pediatrician and go from there.  Hugs and good luck!

laborRN5
by on Dec. 6, 2013 at 7:25 AM
I am struggling with the same question...my son only recently received an ASD diagnosis; after reading reading through the diagnosis criteria I am becoming more skeptical! Yes my child has a speech delay, that is what prompted me to get help for him; yes, he has struggles in social situations (doesn't play with other children) but he is an only child, has no cousins his age (2), and few opportunities to interact with peers. He does not go to daycare, he is with my mother-in-law when I work. He is a picky eater, not texture related; yes, he is very routine/schedule oriented, but I didn't go back to work full-time (3, 12 hour shifts/week) until September of this year, I worked very hard at establishing a routine because that's how my mind works. I initially thought his eye contact was poor, but after closely observing him lately I'm questioning that! We met with the psychologist a couple of days ago (& last week with a multi-disciplinary team), my husband and I mentioned multiple times that Baron tends to be shy at first, also once he became overly active, we told him that this is typical behavior around nap time...we questioned if their testing allowed for the fact that he is 2, shy, sleepy, and un-socialized because we thought it was ok not to use daycare and didn't realize that we shrank his world to 3 people (me, husband & grandma)? We are not completely satisfied with his answer!! Baron started speech therapy this week and seemed to enjoy it...we are looking for a daycare situation, play groups, and fully intend to go forward with ABA therapy. Neither my husband nor I are opposed to an autism diagnosis, we are so committed to him being physically, mentally, & socially well!!! He is our EVERYTHING; we adopted Baron when he was one day old, after 16 years of infertility...he has been and still is all that we hoped for...cute as a button, funny, clever, smart, amazing infectious laugh, quirky (just like his dad, lol), & affectionate.
Sorry this is so long...your post said everything I've been thinking for the past 2 weeks.
Best of luck to your family...you have certainly come to the right place for support, it has meant a lot to read the posts on this site, they are from real moms and so encouraging!!!
Take care! Dot ;-)

Quoting MixedCooke:

I am sorry, but I am still researching autism spectrum disorder and my child.  Her daddy and I are fairly anti-social such that I prefer to be alone or work alone and also like to have schedules and routine and have my own issues with getting anxious in new environments and with new people.  Couldnt those traits be more genetic than autism???

lancet98
by Bronze Member on Dec. 6, 2013 at 8:32 AM


I don't understand your question.   Autism is genetic, and while there has been very little research on personality types, most people's personality is very well formed before they are 4 or 5 years old.   So personality types are probably at least partly genetic as well.   

But there is no science behind the idea that personality of the parents has any relationship to the child having autism.   Just because autistic children may also be reserved and like sameness, that does not make autism and a reserved personality in a parent, related.

Autism is genetic.    It is caused by genes.    There are no 'genes for autism', though, there are genes that control how the brain grows during early development - many many genes are involved in that.   Autism results from how the brain grows during early development.   There is no indication that pollution or birth control pills or parental personality or anything else 'causes' autism.   There is no science behind any of those ideas.   

And 'caused by genes' doesn't mean the genes are inherited from the parents.   Many of the differences in genetics in autistic people, are not found in their parents.   They are mutations - and no - a gene mutating doesn't mean something 'made' it mutate.   Genes simply mutate, they're supposed to do that.   Nothing 'causes' the mutations in autism.  

In other words, nobody did anything wrong that made your child have autism.

Just because you and your husband are reserved and like a routine, that doesn't mean you 'gave' your child autism.    Nor does it mean either of you have autism.   Many people have a reserved personality that likes routine, that does not mean they are autistic or even 'near autistic' or 'slightly autistic'.   

Quoting MixedCooke:

I am sorry, but I am still researching autism spectrum disorder and my child.  Her daddy and I are fairly anti-social such that I prefer to be alone or work alone and also like to have schedules and routine and have my own issues with getting anxious in new environments and with new people.  Couldnt those traits be more genetic than autism???


JTMOM422
by Brenda on Dec. 6, 2013 at 9:07 AM

To be honest none of us are qualified to give an answer to this. I would have your child tested and see what the tests say. I do agree though that these can be things even for a child who is not on the spectrum. 

lady_katie
by Silver Member on Dec. 6, 2013 at 10:17 AM

Well, Autism is really just a set of behaviors that you either exhibit or you don't. The thing is, the definition of Autism has changed and expanded in recent years, so it's not necessarily as severe of a condition as it was once thought to be (for some). If you meet the criteria, you meet the criteria. It doesn't mean that your life is going to be one way or another, or that it's even going to be that big of a deal (for some). 

In my opinion, anti-social, schedules, routines, anxiety, speech delay - these sound like pretty standard autism traits to me. Autism is genetic, by the way, so these traits could easily be both genetic and autistic. 

But, there is a full criteria that needs to be met in order to qualify for a diagnosis, so an evaluation is definitely the way to go. A person can have autism traits, without meeting enough of the criteria to be considered autistic. 

dawncs
by Dawn on Dec. 6, 2013 at 10:28 AM

It would not hurt to get him a diagnosis at this point. There is help for him in school for free or with counseling. There is a great thing called social skills therapy. It can do wonders with children with social anxiety and being anti social. The anxiety comes in from not knowing how to fit into a situation. I know this from personal experience since I am officially diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome.

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TheLadyAmalthea
by Bronze Member on Dec. 6, 2013 at 12:25 PM
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There is definitely a difference between being introverted or antisocial and autism. There are many more signs that go along with an autism diagnosis. I am an introvert myself. In a waiting room full of other women at our therapy office and I'm sitting there reading a book. Sometimes I feel like conversation, other times I'd rather read and escape the world for a while. Speech delays can be genetic, and don't always indicate autism. I would look for more autism redflags in your child, and try not to get stuck on your own personality traits. Take your child to the doctor and ask them for an MCHAT, which is a sort of checklist for behaviors and go from there.

Charizma77
by Carissa on Dec. 6, 2013 at 12:47 PM

I'm honestly not sure but go with your gut, us moms have a very strong sense about our own kids. Hugs!

emarin77
by Silver Member on Dec. 6, 2013 at 12:58 PM

I would be on the lookout for their odd social behavier (not looking into someones eyes when talking to another)  and behaviors; hitting, anger, throwing toys, repeating words, walking back and forth, walking in circles.  Their are many other red flags too.

samomama
by Sally on Dec. 6, 2013 at 1:17 PM

It probably doesn't equate, but specialists have to make that call. No one here can, I think.

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