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My Son Out of Control & I Broke My Wrist

Posted by on Dec. 7, 2013 at 9:10 AM
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This past Thurs. I had to go pick Brady up at school because he was out of control. For about a month now the school has been calling me at least once a week. So we've been adjusting his medications trying to find the right combo.Just to make sure it wasn't an ear inf. or anything else physical I decided I'd bring him to see his primary care doc. Anyway he was fine on the ride up & while waiting to be called. Then the nurse comes out calls his name & he throws himself on the floor. My son is8 & he weighs 77 lbs so you imagine me trying to coax him up. Finally he gets up & starts running towards this girl so I grabbed him from behind be headbutts me I flew backwards, landed in my wrist with Brady on top of me. I look down & my wrist was all twisted I knew it was broken. At that point I grab my phone& call boyfriend& so now he's on his way. Brady saw my wrist started screaming & crying by now the whole office is trying to clam him down while tending to my broken wrist. An ambulance is called because now my son is running around the office trying to bite people. Finally his doc. gets him in a room & 2 nurses & cop are holding him down. Then my boyfriend arrives & he snapped out if & was as calm as could be. Thank god for my man he has a very calming effect on him. Anyway we both got a ride in the ambulance. He doesn't have an ear inf. or anything physical wrong with him. We started new med. last night & I have the # to an emergency team that will come to our home & evaluate him. I'm praying he won't have to be hospitalized. In the mean time I'm in a cast. My wrist is broaken in 2 places & I have to have surgery next week. I always knew someday I wouldn't be able to control I just didn't think it would be so soon. My heart is breaking please say a pray & send positive thoughts. Thanks for listening.
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mypbandj
by Jen on Dec. 7, 2013 at 9:44 AM
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Oh momma! HUGS HUGS HUGS

I cannot imagine what you are going through. That had to be scary, frustrating, embarrassing, and more!! It's good that those doctors witnessed his behavior right? They can probably pass on what happened to his other drs. I hope they can help him without putting him in the hospital. I'm sending you big hugs through the computer! Hang in there.
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jennymoon4
by Bronze Member on Dec. 7, 2013 at 9:47 AM
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I'm sorry this happened. I hope that you can find the right med combo to help your son & I hope you heal quickly. Hugs to you and your family.
wildchild.com
by Janine on Dec. 7, 2013 at 12:12 PM
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I actually used to work that office so they really went.above beyond the call of duty. One of the NPs called me at home to give me info. on the good hosp. area.I still can't believe this happened...thanks so much hugs!
Quoting mypbandj: Oh momma! HUGS HUGS HUGS

I cannot imagine what you are going through. That had to be scary, frustrating, embarrassing, and more!! It's good that those doctors witnessed his behavior right? They can probably pass on what happened to his other drs. I hope they can help him without putting him in the hospital. I'm sending you big hugs through the computer! Hang in there.
emarin77
by Silver Member on Dec. 7, 2013 at 12:45 PM
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Hon, I'm gonna be honest with you.  Your son needs to learn how to communicate how he is feeling.  This can be done verbally, sign language, IPad, etc.  Medication can do so much but he needs to use a way to communicate his feelings.

First I would ask for a mandatory IEP meeting to deal with your son's behavier at school.  A plan needs to be made on how to best disapline and teach your son how to communicate.  Is he not behaving at home too?  If he is, I suggest a behavieral chart with small awards and a large award at the end of the week that your son chooses.  A time out would be needed if he is hitting or hurting you or any other in the house.  Teach him we use our words, signing, IPad, etc. when angry, we say "I'm angry."  You repeatedly have to teach him this until they do not hit you.

My son used to hit me and my husband when he was 3.  By using time outs repeatedly my son was using his words within a year.  Now at age 5 he doesn't hit me or his father at all.  He uses his words. 

kajira
by Emma on Dec. 7, 2013 at 12:49 PM
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Sounds like something at school is a major problem and i'm not sure medication is the right fix.

I do think he needs a mental health evaluation, because that type of out of control violence may need more interventions than just medication. (And a lot of times, medication triggers worse violence so needs super close supervision in kids like him.)

I'm so sorry about your wrist, and the school situation and your son's out of control behavior.

darbyakeep45
by Darby on Dec. 7, 2013 at 12:56 PM
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My heart is breaking for you right now.  I can't imagine.  Big hugs!

dawncs
by Dawn on Dec. 7, 2013 at 12:59 PM
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You are in my thoughts and prayers regarding you and Brady. Have you thought of getting him involved with a behavioralist? It could help him a lot. Also, has the school thought of having a behavioral assessment done on him to see what can be done to help him more at school? You can read more ideas at http://www.wrightslaw.com/ and http://www.autismspeaks.org/.

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Jenn8604
by on Dec. 7, 2013 at 1:00 PM
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Hugs!
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by on Dec. 7, 2013 at 1:48 PM
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I'm sorry :( that must have been incredibly difficult. I know one day I won't be able to have physical control over my son and it scares me. I hope you heal quickly and find the right resources for your son.

jowen905
by Jan on Dec. 7, 2013 at 5:22 PM
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 Oh, I'm so sorry this has happened.  I'm saying prayers for you and Brady.  I agree with the other moms' suggestions about IEP meeting, mental health eval., behavioralist, maybe a language/communication specialist?  I just feel so bad - I wish I could do something for you besides just send a hug.  But here it is anyway:  "HUGS"

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