Ss continues to have issues at bm
Background-DH is custodial for past 2 yrs. Ss started having issues with me after bm lost the court case regarding child tax credit and had to repay back IRS. Bm requested ss live with her full time and DH agreed to see if ss behavior would improve in march 2013. Bm had said things to ss about dh as ss started hating dh. told dh he was no longer his father and sf was his new dad.Co states parents can change times if both parents agree. Ss only started living back with us for 3 months only on weekends. Bm begged DH to start helping her with ss as he continues to be aggressive in her home. Bm takes ss to a family/ marriage therapist monthly since march 2013.
Issue: DH has told ss that if he has issues with sf, then go back to the co schedule. Ss would be with DH wed- sat, every other weekend. Ss didn't want to cause we make him do his homework. Bm let's ss do whatever he wants. Ss continues to want live in an abusive home but then complains about it to DH. What would you do? Should DH force ss to go back regular schedule? The past six months was very hurtful to DH as ss was verbally telling his dad he hates him, your not my dad, etc. Or continue to let ss stay there because he wants too live in that environment?