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Holiday Stress Anyone???

Posted by on Dec. 16, 2013 at 9:22 PM
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Anyone else bitten off more than they can chew for the holiday preperations?  I know it is over a week away, but I am really feeling the time crunch.  I am always done with my shopping before Black Friday - not this year, still have teacher/therapists gifts and our parents.  Nothing is wrapped.  I have about half the holiday baking done and in the freezer but still half to go, and it's all time consuming stuff.  Same for entrees I need to make for Christmas Eve at my in laws and Christmas Day at my mom's.  And of course it is all the time consuming requests that everyone wants, not the easy stuff.  Which it's the holidays so yes, we all want the favorites.  But I have 4 kids running around all the time, regular chores of wads of laundry, cleaning, therapies, etc.  This week I also have an IEP meeting and 504 meeting added in on top of the usual already crazy schedule, and extra music programs for my son.  Then I keep getting calls by my mom and MIL as my sister and SIL (with 1 and 2 NT kids) are feeling overwhelmed so could I make one more thing or pick up their slack?  Seriously?  Why do I always have to be the dependable one?  Does no one get my life?  And instead of gifts I could quickly go out and buy everyone wants the cookies that take me 2 days to make.  Augh, I'm just tired, stressed, feeling the lack of help, and am just waiting for the holiday sickness to hit and shut down everything.  I am the one that never asks for help and doesn't want people to know how much work 3 SN kids really are.  I just don't want them to associate 'negatives' with my children.  But these are our families, and the people that really should know all this already.  Anyone else having a stressful week and feel like no one understands your situation?  I'm just ready for the holidays to be over.  I want to enjoy my kid's at Christmas and see their little happy faces, but honestly I really am about done wanting to deal with any of the rest of it.  I haven't even gotten them out to see Santa yet!  Augh, so behind!!

by on Dec. 16, 2013 at 9:22 PM
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Jenibob
by Bronze Member on Dec. 16, 2013 at 9:35 PM

I have a "love/hate" relationship at this time of year.  Love singing x-mas songs when we're on the go in our van.  Love watching my son hum/sing at home to himself.Love catching up with friends for a get together.   Hate the commercialism, pressure of gifts, family drama (well, just my stepfather). 

I so prefer Thanksgiving. 

SamMom912
by Gold Member on Dec. 16, 2013 at 9:37 PM
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Nooe. jewish, easy peasy. :p 

mjmorrison
by on Dec. 16, 2013 at 9:50 PM
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we do christmas eve. 30 to 40 people. outside catering is my best friend with enough leftovers for christmas day. no stress

Nickmom1118
by Nicole on Dec. 16, 2013 at 10:37 PM
I feel you on this.

I hate the family drama that comes with Christmas. My in laws have already started to try to get DH and I against each other. We agreed that Nicolas spends Christmas home. But they are stressing him to go to their house. So I had to step in and stop it.

I am cooking dinner and trying to figure that out. Then I need to figure out what or if I'm going to do anything for Nick teachers. His special Ed teachers sent a gift home with him today. I thought that was sweet. But if I'm going to do anything, it has to be sent in thurs. I'm starting to feel the time limits too.
ineedcoffeemom
by Brittaney on Dec. 17, 2013 at 12:02 AM

I know what you're talking about and you have to put your foot down and say, hey, I can't do everything. In the past, family members just assumed I would do certain things and I let them know that I have a life of my own and can't do everything for everyone. My mom tries ...... and she gets pissed off, stressed out and sick every year. I tell her to quit it, just do the amount you want to do, but most of the time she doesn't listen. And then I have to listen to her whine about everything she has to do. I let her whine but it really bothers me because she does it to herself.

I understand you want to show your love for your family, but sometimes your little ones should trump everything else going on. Last year we did Christmas day at home .... we didn't see anyone, it was just the 3 of us. Each family got to celebrate Christmas with us on other days, but I wanted to spend Christmas with my family and not worry about what was in the oven and making sure my daughter wasn't trying to break something at somebody else's house, or worrying one of the bigger children was knocking her over, etc....

Sigh ..... but this year I will be doing all the Christmas cooking at my in-laws. MIL can't cook to save her life and my husband wants a fantastic meal, even though that means I'll be doing it all myself. But it'll just be his parents, his brother and us so I don't have to feed an army.

mypbandj
by Jen on Dec. 17, 2013 at 12:22 AM
Yes I'm so stressed! First off, Christmas seemed to come early this year worth thanksgiving being so late. Then, we are going to do an early Christmas with my dad this weekend and by the time we get home, it'll really be Christmas so I have to actually be ready like 5 days early!! And I spent the last 4 days sick with the stomach flu running thru my house. Oh and we have house guests coming too. GAH!!!
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johnns
by Johnna on Dec. 17, 2013 at 12:46 AM
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Oh I know the feeling! I'm stretched from earlobe to a-hole! Lol. I've lived through the last 44 Christmas's, thinking I will live through this one too! How well it turns out, might be interesting! So much going on, heard there was a Scout dinner Saturday night....ahhh was not aware of that till 5 hrs ago! Nice! My better half comes to town tomorrow- hoping he's inspired because I'm burnout! Losing brain cells as I write. Did get the cards out! I've made some progress, but so much more to do. At this rate I'm taking one gig at a time.
darbyakeep45
by Darby on Dec. 17, 2013 at 5:26 AM

We are going out of town for the holidays...so I just need to do laundry and pack.  That's it:)

TheJerseyGirl
by Michele on Dec. 17, 2013 at 6:18 AM

 I think we're all stressed at this point! I think it's part of the holiday but part of how everyone else around you is acting during the holiday. Life is stressful! So Christmas is no help!

I'm so disgustingly full of Christmas spirit that I'm ok with it though! lol

Momof4AEMW
by Gold Member on Dec. 17, 2013 at 11:16 AM

I am with you on that one!  Could we just hear the music, look at the tree, and eat without more stress?  Presents for kids I'm fine with, but the adults, really, enough already. 

Quoting Jenibob:

I have a "love/hate" relationship at this time of year.  Love singing x-mas songs when we're on the go in our van.  Love watching my son hum/sing at home to himself.Love catching up with friends for a get together.   Hate the commercialism, pressure of gifts, family drama (well, just my stepfather). 

I so prefer Thanksgiving. 

 

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