No Clue How to Proceed ***EDIT WITH FINAL UPDATE***
My son is 14 years old he is ASD, ADHD, OCD, and anixety issues. DS tends to get into everything prys at locked doors, personal items have disappeared, he lies constantly, and when I forget his medication it is like he reverts in age about 10 years. Here is the issue...I have been dating a guy for 2 years and last spring I moved closer to him (I bought a house). This past spring he started doling out punishment to my son--he would intentionally set him off and then call the police and show them videos of him out of control, he tricks my son into saying things that are not true. He is extremely controlling and he makes my son write. I'm not talking two or three pages but 3 notesbook 180 pages a piece EACH TIME HE MISBEHAVES. he is required to write 20 to 30 pages LEGIBLY a day. I have tried to leave this relationship but I am scared of him. Most of his friends are the local cops who thinks he walks on water. Tonight was the final straw my son went to bed with NO DINNER. BF told him since he did not get his writing done he was not allowed to eat and I needed to assign another notebook to him. My heart breaks as I watch him suffer. I really have no clue how to proceed...because of this relationship I have no family help he managed to alienate every last one of them. any advice??? By the way my son sits or stands on the grate in the kitchen from the time he gets up to hte time he goes to bed. I am not allowed to let him leave the kitchen.
They removed my son from the home tonight. He is with my parents 45 min away. The police and CPS will make the decision tomorrow whether he will be allowed back in the home or if he will stay with my parents. They took the evidence and will turn it over to the courts tomorrow and figure out how to proceed.
ONE FINAL UPDATE--- YESTERDAY THE POLICE ARRESTED HIM--HE SPENT THE NIGHT IN JAIL AND TODAY HE WENT TO COURT AND HE PLED GUILTY TO CHILD ENDANGERING A FELONY IN THE 2ND DEGREE HE HAS TO SERVE 90 DAYS IN JAIL 5 YEARS PROBATION AND 5 YEARS NO CONTACT ORDER THE EVIDENCE IS OVERWHELMING AND HE KNEW HE HAD NO CHANCE SO HE PLED OUT.