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A Human Mom " doh" moment today

Posted by on Jan. 4, 2014 at 7:43 PM
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Unfortunately we had to change meds again for my D.  So today, he couldn't take anything so the old could fully flush out. He slept on and off all day. Very irrational  very weepy. He completely slipped out of engaging us today.  In a heated moment of frustration I yelled at him.which caused a 30 minute downward spiral of tears and sobbing, shaking and he kept saying he was sorry for being so bad.  I felt horrible.  These transitions are tough enough on him. He has perked up since dinner. I can't wait until this next 7-10 days passes so he can be balance out hopefully. I felt so bad for loosing my cool. Im trying not to over compensate right now. Augh! 

little background.   d is 15, Aspergers DX, depression anxiety ADD ( inattentive) suffered traumatic head injury in July 2013which really messed up a lot of the progress that he made.  He has daily headaches and migraines 3-4 times a week  since his accident.  He hasn't been able to be physically active bc of all the headaches. Meds have been hard to manage since the injury. 

by on Jan. 4, 2014 at 7:43 PM
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darbyakeep45
by Darby on Jan. 4, 2014 at 7:44 PM
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Hugs mama...don't be so hard on yourself. This can't be easy for either of you!

Jenibob
by Bronze Member on Jan. 4, 2014 at 7:48 PM
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Sorry to hear of the hardships. Don't be so hard on yourself mom, we have all lost our cool at the wrong time and added fuel to the fire. Let it go, tomorrow is another day. Saying a prayer for you folks to make it through this

mabeetle
by on Jan. 4, 2014 at 7:53 PM

Thank you guys..it's  been rough.... It always can be worse... It's been long cold day today. I have to realize I'm not perfect nor does any one expect me to be.  

SamMom912
by Gold Member on Jan. 4, 2014 at 8:00 PM
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I was going to ask you to change your title of your post to "human mom moment"... Really our jobs of mom-ing tough kids is hard enough,, dont make it harder by expecting perfection. We ALL make mistakes, say sorry and move on... :) 

JTMOM422
by Brenda on Jan. 4, 2014 at 8:02 PM
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Oh momma. We all have days like that. Mine was yesterday. I became so frustrated with my son yesterday I yelled at him that I didn't know what he wanted. I felt so bad afterwards. It's not his fault and I knew that but I was frustrated and just yelled. 

I really hope the next week goes by smoothly. It has to be hard for your son right now. HUGS Please keep us updated

mabeetle
by on Jan. 4, 2014 at 8:06 PM
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Quoting SamMom912:

I was going to ask you to change your title of your post to "human mom moment"... Really our jobs of mom-ing tough kids is hard enough,, dont make it harder by expecting perfection. We ALL make mistakes, say sorry and move on... :) 

That is a better topic suggestion.  As you all know, it so frustrating.  I want a USB cable plugg in so I can see or feel what's going on inside his head.

TheJerseyGirl
by Michele on Jan. 5, 2014 at 9:05 AM

 I'm so sorry to hear he had a head injury so severe! Give the meds time and his body time to heal. Hopefully, things will get much better for all of you.

mabeetle
by on Jan. 5, 2014 at 8:48 PM

Update, update! Day one new med went well! He went to the mall with his aunt. He had just a slight headache . He talked on the phone which is a rare thing.  He smiled.   Maybe this is a fluke or honeymoon or psychosomatic response.  I will take it!  Praying this is the med to settle on for a bit.  Tomorrow we have 2 appointments at the concussion center. Hopefully I can get him more PT to help him rebound.

jowen905
by Jan on Jan. 6, 2014 at 8:20 PM

 I understand - I hate it when I lose my cool, when I KNOW that's the most unproductive, selfish thing to do!  But we all do it, we've all been there!  Just read your update - glad he's had a better day, hope that continues for you and him.......hugs!

Charizma77
by Carissa on Jan. 6, 2014 at 9:02 PM

I agree with Darby, hugs!

Quoting darbyakeep45:

Hugs mama...don't be so hard on yourself. This can't be easy for either of you!


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