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New to autism

Posted by on Jan. 16, 2014 at 9:28 AM
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My son is a wonderful 4.5 year old little boy. Every adult I have ever met loves him and thinks he super smart. However my son Caleb has never been a normal child. He undergoing all the evalution right now. Autism is something I have accepted with him. To me he still perfect but just unique. 

He started preschool this year and his teacher have been having problems with him. They where seeing what I was seeing and what my son old pediatrician saw. So I decided to take him to his pediatrician in our new town. He thought it either autism or ADHD with OCD. I almost got talk out of this diagnosis again by my ex husband family. I am glade I did not listen. Everyone who meets him at first thinke he normal but weird i.e. a boy. People who know him always ask me is he autistic. 

So his school and I have gone down the rabbit hole toghther. The school psycholgist will do he last test on Feb. 4th, but she said be prepared I know it autism and I just want to make sure by doing two test spaced out. They are starting him on speech therapy next week. He has a high vocab but he cannot have a conversation with anyone. 

I have so many question to try to help him cope, but I feel so under educated and not sure what to do with him.

The biggest thing right now I hope will vanish is his uncontrolloable melt downs. It over food most of the time. If the bread, bananna, noodle, etc... breaks he wants to throuw it away. He tossess it in the trash and just freaks out like as if someone is beating him. I always tel him just it broke doesn't mean it not good anymore. I even break a piece of that food and eat saying yummy. Trying to show him it still good, but just doesn't work.

I also wish I can have a normal relationship with him. he doesn't let me hug him or hold him he freak out. On the flip side he refuse to leave myside and always in my face or invading my personal space. He does this with everyone.

I really just want to learn trciks or tips to help him. Also to understand him and to communicate with him. 

by on Jan. 16, 2014 at 9:28 AM
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by Jen on Jan. 16, 2014 at 10:31 AM
Welcome to the group. My son is 3 and he freaks out if his food breaks too. He NEEDS a new piece and you cannot reason with him.

Autism is a spectrum and not all kids with ASD look or do the same things, to the same degree. It's a hard and scary Dx for people who don't know anything about it - which is why I believe people will try to argue with you and make you think it isn't autism. As if autism is some sorta death sentence. Ugh

My oldest had a Dx of aspergers (part of the autism spectrum) and he is quirky. Your son sounds a lot like mine. He was just quirky and couldn't talk with a real back and forth conversation. He could talk forever on his own agenda though. He never even noticed if you were listening. Lol

My 3 yr old doesn't have a Dx but he is quirky too. He's a lot like my oldest. But also a lot different. When I bring up my concerns of ASD, I have people try and talk me out if it. They say: he looked at me!! He CANT have autism.

Whatever. These people know nothing about autism.

Just understanding what your child can and can't do is huge. You're already so far ahead of the game. With therapies and help, they can come so far. My oldest is now 16 and in the gifted program at school. We just dropped his IEP because he just doesn't need it anymore.

I would highly suggest getting a medical Dx for your child. The school cannot Dx him. They can label him under his IEP as autism. But it is not a medical Dx. You want both.
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by Dawn on Jan. 16, 2014 at 10:34 AM

Welcome to the group! I know this is a difficult time, but he did get diagnosed early which is a plus in getting him all the help he needs to succeed in life. You might find very useful and to help him but also for you to learn what resoruces are out there.

by on Jan. 16, 2014 at 11:34 AM

thank you for the advise. His school psychologist going to take her testing to the local psychologist that we finally go here on my side of the state to medically diagnosis him. 

What do you gals or guys think of red shirting an autisitic child? 

by Gold Member on Jan. 16, 2014 at 12:59 PM

I suggest a specialist with experience with Autism diagnose him.  Children with Autism also have tendencies to have other behavieral disorders too and can grow out of them also.  My son who is 5 in typical kindergarten had many of the issues your son has now but he now just has some mild sensory issues with low noises. Temper tamptrums occur because of difficulty communicating with others about his needs.  Speech therapy can help with this, I would think his school has this service for him.

by Shanta on Jan. 16, 2014 at 1:26 PM

Welcome to the group!! My son is Josiah and he is 5 years old (diagnosed at 2)...We still deal with meltdowns but I must say they have gotten a lot better.Just Hang in there!

by Darby on Jan. 17, 2014 at 5:32 AM

Welcome to the group mama!

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