Not totally Autism related, but need some advice/reassurance and scared of other groups. LOL
I'll try to make this short, but have to give some background first. My DH's brother passed away after an extended battle with colon cancer in 3/12. In 7/12, my SIL moved to MN and lived with us until december of 2013. She barely paid anything and we gave her a car, (3 actually) a cell phone, insurance, food, toothpaste, shampoo, everyting. She only bought her own makeup, cigs (sometimes we even paid for those) etc. She was "trying" to get back on her feet since she lost everything when he was sick and he was the main bread winner. ANyway, in December, I asked her to maybe switch to generic cigarettes, or not buy a $3.00 energy drink every day so she could start paying a little more. We asked for $200/mo for everything, she was paying $100-$120 some months, some nothing at all as she kept going on trips to meet guys she was talking to on the internet. So she got mad and moved to Texas to move in with the current guy she was talking to. She has a 90 pound dog who is neurotic as hell. I had to put rugs down in my entire kitchen because this dog is scared of the wood floor!! So she was flying one way, and asked if we would please keep her dog for a month or two. She got kicked out of where she was, ended up with some druggie guy who keeps "stealing" her new car she bought. And I am sure she is on drugs now also as when she was living with us, she stole my DS's Concerta TWICE. Like 10 pills or more each time. We made her go to treatment or she had to leave and she did, but I just dont' think she gets it! Now, she is mad because I gave her a deadline of March 15th to come get her dog or we will get rid of her. The dog keeps me up half the night whining, I let her out and she runs off for an hour or two and since it is MN and frigidly cold, I can't go back to bed til she comes back or she'll freeze to death. She bit my foot the other day when I went to step over her while she was eating. It didn't break the skin, but it hurt. She barks at my grandkids and scares them. She eats like a PIG and I am spending an extra almost $50 a month on food which she is not paying for. The list goes on. When I messaged her (because her phone got turned off) that we were giving her a deadline, her reply was "I guess I'll just lose everyting then!" :-( Am I out of line here? I know most likely the dog will end up being put down because she is almost 9 and is not in the best of health and I feel bad about that, but I just don't know what else to do! I seriously doubt she will ever be in a position to come get her. :-( Ideas?