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My son is 13 and is just being diagnosed with aspergers

Posted by on Mar. 12, 2014 at 6:53 PM
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This is my first time ever posting on the internet so bear with me.  My son has always struggled in school.  In second grade we had him tested at Akron Childrens Hospital and was told he had a receptive/expressive language disorder.  He has been in the resource room and in inclusion settings in school.  He is now in the 7th grade and really struggling.  I've taken him to a child phychologist who at first diagnosed him as being depressed.  The second time she saw him I brought his ETR scores and after looking them over she said he has aspergers.  His cognitive scores are very low but I thought it was due to his expressive/receptive language disorder.  She said because my son builds legos, enjoys trains and plays video games that these are all signs of a child having aspergers.  I find that hard to believe because there are a lot of 13 year old boys who like to play video games.  We haven't formally had him diagnosed yet but are planning to this month.  I guess the thing that really surprises me is after all the testing he has had done nobody has ever said he had aspergers in 13 years.  Isn't aspergers something that is usually diagnosed at an early age? 

by on Mar. 12, 2014 at 6:53 PM
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by Dawn on Mar. 12, 2014 at 6:58 PM

Welcome to the group! You need to update tomorrow his recent diagnosis of Asperger Syndrome for school records. I have a step brother who was diagnosed at age 17. I was almost 28 when I was diagnosed, and my dad thought of it the year before.

by Carissa on Mar. 12, 2014 at 8:44 PM

Welcome to the group! There are other moms in the group whose children (and even some ladies themselves) were not dx until they were older. I'm sure they will have some good advice for you. My son is 9 and was dx pdd.nos at age 3.5.

by on Mar. 12, 2014 at 8:48 PM
My son is 15 and 9th grade. He was diagnosed at 6 years old with high functioning. His grades are low, but they are good for him. He's doing well in school. Starts drivers education when he's 16...
by Silver Member on Mar. 12, 2014 at 8:59 PM

Welcome aboard.

My son was diagnosed late July, he was 9.

He has issues at school but gets by. Whole other story lol.

by Darby on Mar. 13, 2014 at 7:07 AM

Welcome to the group!

by on Mar. 13, 2014 at 9:33 AM

Welcome to the group.  Late diagnosis happens sometimes.  I was diagnosed at 27.

by Member on Mar. 13, 2014 at 10:35 AM

That is so hard to hear after all these years. Just keep after that diagnoses and evaluation and post what you learn. I will be praying for you. Also I have heard of grownups being diagnosed with Aspergers after a lifetime of not knowing why they didn't connect with others.  Tell you the truth I think my mom's new husband has Aspergers the more I learn about my son Bugs' Aspergers the more similarities I see. But my step dad is awesome and a hard working man who takes great care of  my mother. So don't lose hope. Blessingshugs

by Platinum Member on Mar. 13, 2014 at 11:06 AM

I would think that cognitively he would have needed to score high to be considered an aspie. Aspies dont typically have speech and language disorders (aside from the receptive and pragmatics) they do have social issues. To be honest, your description of him doesnt seem to fit what I have learend an aspie to be. Could her comment about his hobbies mean she thought (and maybe they are ) more fixations then hobbies? 

Does he have sensory issues? Does he have and maintain freindships? How is his receptive language? id want a second opinion IF you dont think that is a good fit. 

My son was diagnosed as an Aspie at 3.5. i was not fully on board with that DX, but was happy to have a Dx to get him the necessary services from CPSE. At 5.5 we had another DX done by as aspie specialist who said she was not 100 percent he was aspie.. He was right there on the cusp... She called him a "bridge kid"... On the bridge between NT and Aspie. Lol.. He is 7 now... And struggling socially (we now got to a social skills class) struggling sensorily... There are some days I think he is on Aspie Island and has crossed that And some days that he just adjusts so well... But MOST days are Aspie... So I acknowledge his difficulties as if he was an aspie and try to see his difficulties with that in mind. 

by Sally on Mar. 13, 2014 at 11:46 AM

It doesn't sound to me that your son was given an official diagnosis. As far as I know, that diagnosis does not exist any more, it falls under ASD. Another thing is what SanMom912 said. Aspies are cognitively right on spot, if not advanced, and speech is not an issue. In any case, of you boy has struggles, I would get him officially diagnosed. That way you will know what to do to best help him. Good luck, and we are here if you need someone to talk to. Hugs momma!

by on Mar. 13, 2014 at 11:50 AM
Welcome! I was diagnosed at age 28, but my elementary school did pick up on *something* when I was 6 or 7. They thought that maybe it was ADHD, but I was never tested for anything.

I can see why someone with aspergers may be diagnosed with a language disorder. We tend to take things literally, or fail to pick up on hidden meanings that require "reading between the lines". I tend to find myself in situations where I say to myself "I have no idea what this person is talking about" or "I have no idea WHY this person is telling me this".

As far as Legos and video games go, they are sort of stereotypical aspergers interests, but it seems really unprofessional to me that this person would state that as any kind of a "sign" of being on the spectrum. Unless they are complete obsessions, then its not really relavant.
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