Anyone Get Too Attached to Care Givers???
Several of us say it is hard for family and friends to understand our lives and situations, show acceptance, etc. But then, at least I find, the service providers that come into my kids lives just effortlessly 'get it.' The teachers, aides, therapists, private nursing, some doctors (and yes, some are clueless). And then they stay in our kids lives for long periods of time, and I feel at times become part of our family. At the same time, it is their job to do this role, not to love our kids, yet many do. And it is their job to move on to other children when insurance changes, kids outgrow therapy, or school ends. My kids certainly get attached and feel it's another Grandma, aunt or special someone. But sometimes I too have become far too attached to this person that just walks in our life and 'gets' things, when I struggle for the people in my life that should get it to make connections with anymore. We're losing a therapist we've had in our home for 4 years due to insurance changes, my kids call her GG for Great Grandma. It will be hard on them, but I'll miss her too, and not just the therapy she brings to them but what she's brought to their lives. We're also due to change teachers at the end of the year after 2 years, and while we plan to stay connected, it won't be the same not seeing her day in and day out, and having her just understand the day to day stuff that puzzles everyone else. To see my kids as kids and not their disabilities. To see me as me, and not the mother with 3 disability kids that must have cooties! Do any of you go through this and have a hard time disconnecting when the time comes? How do you get through it?