Having our fake FBA today : Update!
School had approved an FBA for my house to see why Sam has difficulty going to school and to see what help they can offer in getting him to school on time. The woman who works for the district cant be at my house before 9. School starts at 8:50.. So Im not sure what their idea was. Today Sam was asked to stay home by the school so he wouldnt have to be in the school play. He is not due at school until 10:30. So at 9:30 the woman is coming.
Not exactly sure what info they are Hoping to get from this situation..
an extra 2 hours is perfect for Sam. 4 hour days not 6 are ideal... Lol.. So, Im guessing he will be 100 percent compliant.
So she came in. Sam hung out ith us in the LR for a bit about 15 minutes chatting being fun relaxed SAm. She was amazed at the difference in Sam at school stimming, stiff.. to relaxed chatty Sam. After 15 minutes he asked to go play with the computer. I set the timer for 10 minutes and then he came back out.. we a little shy, but she asked a few questions and he was plesant enough.
At 10:15, she (and I) went to say good bye. (as her time was up) and she wished Sam a good day at school.. and he totally freaked out.. screaming how he isnt going... hid under the desk... we left him alone.. I got him a drink of water.. he ran to the LR.. and was screaming how he isnt going today.. NOt GOING! So she saw him freak.. and she left.
So I am not sure if Im happy about how it went- or what.. I mean.. Im thinking it was sort of perfect.. he was relaxed.. his anxiety rise around school and then he refused when the time came.
He is playing now- but saying having her here all morning (1 hour) totally stressed him out. I gave him a half hour to play and we are going to revisit getting ourselves together for school. I dont care if he goes or not.. Im so f'ing done.
The FBA lady told me the district wont pay for a school. She said its near impossible. I could spend 10,000 on legal fees to fight the district.. but to be honest, IF I lose that means Im out the 10K AND I still have to shell out 15+ (or more) a year on tuition for private. I just want to cry. I m done.