New to the group and about to lose my mind
I have a 5 year old son who we suspect is on the spectrum, but are on a waiting list to have him tested. I am about to lose my mind though and I need some help on how to cope. His dad and I are split up and have been since he was a baby. We currently have a 50/50 visitation schedule in place so he is constantly bounced from house to house. We have 2 different sets of rules as they let him do whatever and go to bed when ever at their house. I on the other hand have rules and bedtime is 8pm no questions asked. His behavior is becoming too much for me to cope with though. He refuses to nap, but if he gets too tired he throws these huge melt down fits. He can't communicate with me at times that he is hungry so he has melt downs and once I can finally get him calmed down he can then tell me he is hungry. He was diagnosed in November with ADD and I have pushed his pedi since then because I felt like there was something else going on. We just 2 weeks ago got the ok to have him tested for autism. I am at whits end now though. Take tonight for example. I fed him dinner at approx 6:30 and he was in the bath by 7:30. Everything was on schedule. He got out of the bath, got pj's on and did his breathing treatment. I tucked him in for the night. Within 5 minutes he was up because he was thirsty, then he wanted to sleep on the floor. I told him no and that started the whole melt down that lasted 2.5 hours! I put him back in bed and he threw a huge fit about how he didn't like his bed and he wanted to sleep on the floor. I went back to the living room and he comes out with his blanket. He said he needed to fold it. I told him no and took him back to bed. I go and sit back down and I hear him in the room playing. I go put him back in his bed and give him a clonidine and made him lay down again. After another hour of yelling and screaming I decided to just load him into the car and drive around until he was asleep. I needed a break and I knew I wasn't going to get one with him still carrying on and I didn't know how much longer he would keep on. He fell asleep in the car and I carried him up 3 flights of stairs and got him in bed. I just don't know how to cope with it. When he is throwing these fits I don't know what to do to calm him down if I am not calm myself. I guess I just needed to get that out and see if anyone has any advice on what to try or how to keep calm when he is having these melt downs.