This is why we don't hang around people with neurotypical kids very often. I know that young kids don't understand and it's not necessarily their fault, but the words still hurt.
We were at a neighbor's house yesterday for a BBQ, and these 2 little girls made fun of Brady. They were both 4 years old. They started out asking questions about Brady...why does he chew on things (chewy tube)? Why does he spin in circles? Why does he squeal? Why does he act like a baby? Why does he drool? I tried to explain that he's just different. He enjoys different things than they do. Well, that didn't really help anything. He drooled in the bounce house, and the girls told my husband that he needed to clean up the drool. Then later on, while the 2 girls were on the swings, Brady was waiting for a turn, and I told the girls they had a few more minutes before they needed to share with Brady. They told me that the swings were only for big kids, not for babies that drool. They said Brady wasn't allowed on their swings because he drooled and acted like a baby. They were laughing.
My heart was breaking more and more each second. I just picked up Brady with tears in my eyes and walked away. My husband saw me and we talked about it and one of the moms saw me too and asked what happened. The mom was very sweet and apologetic, and she even cried as I told her what happened. She went and talked to the girls about it and she brought one of them over to Brady to get her to apologize but the little girl refused to apologize. I told her that was fine and it was ok. That was about it.
This is why we don't spend time with neurotypical kids of this age group. 3-6 years old is a tough age with this kind of stuff...getting the kids to understand that all kids are different and that's okay. I get that they don't understand at times, but the words still hurt. It's not worth it to me to risk my child getting made fun of just to have exposure to NT kids. Brady doesn't care about other kids, as he lives in his own world with the mind of a 15 month old. I'm the one who hears it and is hurt by it. Totally not worth it to me.